"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ARguy

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Broke up with my girlfriend about a month and a half ago. Happen to run into her yesterday in school and we just talked and stuff. That is all nothing more. This morning she texted me saying it was great seeing me yesterday.

How do I get the idea that I am open to friendship but nothing more without coming off as a jerk. She hurt me and she does not really deserve it I guess but yesterday went well like I did not get any urges to get back with her so it definitely got easier for me and stuff. We were only dating three months prior to the break up.

So I want to text her saying what I feel. As in open to friendship no more etc etc.

I am probably over thinking this though... I do not want to lead her on or anything.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wilford

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I wouldn't say anything.
Let her tell you how she feels, let her be the one who worries, sends messages... keep busy keep moving
 

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yeah, I'd agree that you don't need to text her how you feel. If you want to be just friends, then simply act that way. Nothing else to it.

There's no need to come out and say it unless she does something to specifically provoke it like heavily coming on to you or asking you about it.
 

mattbradp

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wilford said:
I wouldn't say anything.
Let her tell you how she feels, let her be the one who worries, sends messages... keep busy keep moving
+1

As a dude you do stuff and let the girl figure it out, it's the girl who's supposed to text and think about 'what's happening between us', not the other way around..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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