"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Help on something...am I already done?

CMan2Fg

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There's this girl in one of my classes who I've kinda had my eye on for a little while now. Class is the only way we know each other and only interaction we've ever had is talking for like 5-10 minutes during one class like 2 weeks ago where she had to sit next to me for like 5 minutes before she went to sit with her friend. See, I know the right thing to do is normally "talk to her." But like..it's kinda hard to have opportunity. She sits always with her 2 friends I sit with my 2. So it's like hard to get a solo chance just us ya know?? And a girl once told me that it would be like "forcing the issue" if I just went up and out of nowhere and tried talking to her despite who she was with and that girl said that was a very bad thing to "force the issue." So what do I do bout this in a "crowd" situation where it can't be just one on one like that how do I approach?? And has my window of opportunity with her already shut?? How could I get my point across that I'm interested. Oh yea I start my break Wednesday so I won't be guarenteed to see her again until I get back on the 14th.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Perhaps you shouldn't take the aformentioned girl's advice, and force the issue. Subtlety often gets you nowhere.
 

CMan2Fg

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Okay so she's full of crap? lol That's what I was hoping.

But like what do I do in a situation like this? The main question here is like in a situation like that where you can't really get her by herself to talk to her (shes with a friend or friends) how do you get in on her without being seen as a "weirdo" or "freak" like so many girls round where i live see some things as? And is my window of opportunity still open?
 

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there are a few options you can take. if you can't talk to her during class, how about after class? since ya'll have already know each other but didn't talk much due to the circumstance, saying hi to her & start a little convo. isn't hard. i'd would suggest after class you ask her about homework, or classnotes, then u can steer the convo. to a different topic like how do u like this class etc...then get her number. if her friends try to clockblock you, then you should quickly isolate her & #close. another thing i notice is that if you talk & participate in class disscussion alot, the girls will be drawn to you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Make strong eye contact with her and she'll make her self available to you if she likes you - maybe she'll drop a handkerchief and allow you to pick it up for her! :)

Find out if she lives on campus and where she eats - then introduce yourself.
 
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