"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ok here is the story...
Ive been out of the singles game for a long time.. I was with my last girlfriend for three years. We recently broke up, and im trying to adjust my life and way of thinking to the Dj methods. There is this chick, and ive fallen hard for her alredy. now i know that if i had a few others on the side her intentions wouldnt bother me so much, but because im still used to the one woman thing, i look deeply at everything she does.
What bothered me last night is that we were at a club having a good time... we did kiss, and i know she has feelings for me, but halfway throught our evening her friend who she came with starts raging me about ****... she said that if i dont tell this girl how i feel, bad things are going to happen, she asked why i dont show much interest in her when im with her, and why do i flirt with other chicks when she is around. Obviously anything i answer goes straight back to the chick. then she said that if i was "man enought" i would realise what i did wrong from a date we had a few nights before. she asked if i invited her out that night (yes) and that i must figure out what i did wrong. I left them for a few minutes to rack my brain, and the only thing i could think of was that i made her pay for her half of the bill. was that the wrong thing to do?? anyways, i go back and my chick is scoring some random dude... i was very upset, and i know i shouldnt be because she isnt even my gf.
I leave, and later I get a message on my phone saying she had a good night, and we will see eachother on saturday(house party).
i message her back saying i want to see her before that, and she is putting me off... am i being played?? where did I go wrong?? what should I do?? i dont want to lose her... any help please... thanks all
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah man, she's a player, sorry. she's got other guys and you on the side. she's just like most girls man. you know what we call them? wh0res.
 

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Don't try to hold on to her, or you will be hurt badly. When her friend tells you that you did "something wrong" tell her friend that it's not her business. Because clearly her friend is trying to be too protective, it's like she's her mom or something. My advice is to ditch the b!tch.
 

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What i didnt mention is that I know she has strong feelings for me... and i think she did those things to make me jealous, her friend is a cold biach and probably influenced her. do you still think i should call it quits, or do you think i should give her what she wants, and put things back where they were (ie. tell her how i feel etc??)
 
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Her g/f actually did you a favor by teling you how this girl thinks/feels and 'warned you that you did something she didn't like. You don't have to bring it up unless she personal confronts you, but just keep in the back of your mind.

Don't tell this girl how you feel since you just met her and this is not necessary so early in the relationship. Women tell men how they 'feel' - men don't do this so early in the game. Don't assume she has strong feelings for you let her tell you!

If she went to the club with you and she was talking to another dude then she disrespected you; however, if you just met her there then it is her right to talk with others.

Don't ever trust a woman who purposely tries to make a man jealous!!

You shouldn't have asked to see her before saturday, you should just set something up for the following week when you see her Saturday, since she already told you "I'll see you Saturday".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well actually I have known this chick for some time now... we have been kind of together for a few months, but dont see eachother a lot, because i had a girlfriend until recently... so now im seeing her more often.
do you still think i shouldnt say anything??
 
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