"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help needed urgently, second date this friday....

El' Waynos

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Hi everyone..

I recently found this site after running a search for dating tips.


Heres my story.

I recently left my job for a new one, about 3 weeks before I left we had a new girl start, she is very attractive and seems like a really nice person... because she was what I would consider 'out of my legue' I was nice to her but never asked her out.

The day after I left I had a voice message left by her saying that she thought I was an awesome guy and she would like to have a drink sometime. She got my number from our database at work, I didnt give it to her.

Obviously I was shocked and called her back the next day for a chat. She told me that she had been trying to get the courage to ask me out since she started, I played it cool in the phone and said id like to meet for a drink and get to know her.

So the very next day she calls and asked to meet for lunch, I did and we went for coffee.
She then said that she really likes me but she has just come out of a long relationship and doesnt want to jump into anything. Her exact words were "I just want to enjoy being single, not to be a slut but to have fun and have some time to my self"

I said ok lets just see where it goes.

I didnt kiss or hug her goodbye, just said it was great to see her and that I would call her.
As I was driving away she sent me a text message saying that she really wanted to kiss me...

This confused the hell out of me because she had told me she didnt want any relationship etc...

Anyway I messaged back saying that Im sure we can find somewhere nicer than the car park..


anyway we are meetintg this friday for some beers, I have to drive so I wont be drunk which is a good thing because then I would spend all night looking at her amazing breasts that I want to kiss so badly ha ha...

anyway.. how do I play this, what do you think she wants and how do I get either some action.. or her to fall for me..

I do really like her as a person but if she doesnt want a relationship what do I do. Im confused because she came for me... maybe she is testing her skills to boost her confidance after her relationship??


Im stumped guys please help....

Waynos
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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shiningshadow

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Stop thinking so much about it. She wants to have a good time, so should you. Don't ask for a relationship, let that happen by itself. (that is, until you can read the DJB.) Don't get desperate for her pvssy, and kiss her if you want. (she said an IM saying she wants it. You might wanna tease her for a bit) Keep behaving the way you normally do because that's what made her ask you out in the first place.
 

El' Waynos

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yeah you're right, im just nervous because she is by far the hottest woman who has been interested in me..


its tough.. when is the best time to kiss her, at the end as we leave or during the conversation..
 

Deadly_Assassin

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Firstly, Actions speak louder than words... So what she says will not necessarily mean what she actually wants. She is obviously interested in you and actually asked you out, so half your battle is won. So dont worry about figuring out if she likes you or not or whether she wants a relationship.

So far you seem to be doing ok. Just have fun on the next date. Dont worry about when to kiss her, what shes doing, who's she flirting with, what kinda panties has she got on, does she like me... Just dont think about anything and go with the flow. Just relax and smile...

Shes gonna throw a few tests at you, shes gonna flirt with other guys, they are gonna hit on her, they will even try taking her away from you, you just have to be in control of yourself and your emotions and not let these things worry you.

Your a man, shes a woman. So DO NOT BE AFRAID. If she busts you for looking at her sexually, be honest about it in a funny confident way. If she busts you for looking at other girls, be honest about it and bust her a$$ for getting jealous... If she flirts with other guys, shes probably testing to see how you react, do not get angry. If she starts making out with someone else, find some other babe to sarge, but do not get angry, do not let the situation control you and your emotions, but you be in control of your self and you will control the situation.
 

El' Waynos

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thanks Assassin thats some good advice, you know last time we met I actually spent about 5 minutes wondering what panties she has on.. damn..

Im looking forward to friday, i'll just be myself and see what happens

I'll post in here how it goes
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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