"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help needed urgently, second date this friday....

El' Waynos

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Hi everyone..

I recently found this site after running a search for dating tips.


Heres my story.

I recently left my job for a new one, about 3 weeks before I left we had a new girl start, she is very attractive and seems like a really nice person... because she was what I would consider 'out of my legue' I was nice to her but never asked her out.

The day after I left I had a voice message left by her saying that she thought I was an awesome guy and she would like to have a drink sometime. She got my number from our database at work, I didnt give it to her.

Obviously I was shocked and called her back the next day for a chat. She told me that she had been trying to get the courage to ask me out since she started, I played it cool in the phone and said id like to meet for a drink and get to know her.

So the very next day she calls and asked to meet for lunch, I did and we went for coffee.
She then said that she really likes me but she has just come out of a long relationship and doesnt want to jump into anything. Her exact words were "I just want to enjoy being single, not to be a slut but to have fun and have some time to my self"

I said ok lets just see where it goes.

I didnt kiss or hug her goodbye, just said it was great to see her and that I would call her.
As I was driving away she sent me a text message saying that she really wanted to kiss me...

This confused the hell out of me because she had told me she didnt want any relationship etc...

Anyway I messaged back saying that Im sure we can find somewhere nicer than the car park..


anyway we are meetintg this friday for some beers, I have to drive so I wont be drunk which is a good thing because then I would spend all night looking at her amazing breasts that I want to kiss so badly ha ha...

anyway.. how do I play this, what do you think she wants and how do I get either some action.. or her to fall for me..

I do really like her as a person but if she doesnt want a relationship what do I do. Im confused because she came for me... maybe she is testing her skills to boost her confidance after her relationship??


Im stumped guys please help....

Waynos
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shiningshadow

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Stop thinking so much about it. She wants to have a good time, so should you. Don't ask for a relationship, let that happen by itself. (that is, until you can read the DJB.) Don't get desperate for her pvssy, and kiss her if you want. (she said an IM saying she wants it. You might wanna tease her for a bit) Keep behaving the way you normally do because that's what made her ask you out in the first place.
 

El' Waynos

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yeah you're right, im just nervous because she is by far the hottest woman who has been interested in me..


its tough.. when is the best time to kiss her, at the end as we leave or during the conversation..
 

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Firstly, Actions speak louder than words... So what she says will not necessarily mean what she actually wants. She is obviously interested in you and actually asked you out, so half your battle is won. So dont worry about figuring out if she likes you or not or whether she wants a relationship.

So far you seem to be doing ok. Just have fun on the next date. Dont worry about when to kiss her, what shes doing, who's she flirting with, what kinda panties has she got on, does she like me... Just dont think about anything and go with the flow. Just relax and smile...

Shes gonna throw a few tests at you, shes gonna flirt with other guys, they are gonna hit on her, they will even try taking her away from you, you just have to be in control of yourself and your emotions and not let these things worry you.

Your a man, shes a woman. So DO NOT BE AFRAID. If she busts you for looking at her sexually, be honest about it in a funny confident way. If she busts you for looking at other girls, be honest about it and bust her a$$ for getting jealous... If she flirts with other guys, shes probably testing to see how you react, do not get angry. If she starts making out with someone else, find some other babe to sarge, but do not get angry, do not let the situation control you and your emotions, but you be in control of your self and you will control the situation.
 

El' Waynos

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thanks Assassin thats some good advice, you know last time we met I actually spent about 5 minutes wondering what panties she has on.. damn..

Im looking forward to friday, i'll just be myself and see what happens

I'll post in here how it goes
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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