Help my gf wants to stay in Tn while I want to gtfo asap

[Dhoulmagus]

Her dream is to live in gasp Memphis which is a putrid **** hole to me or anywhere else in TN. I can pretty much get a job anywhere with my major, but most grads in my major end up in major cities like Atlanta, Charlotte, or Memphis due to not being too far from home. My preferences are Western USA, but I will stomach anything that's not the southeast lol. I've told her before that I was senior and that Tn was not in my plan of the future, but she got mad at me today because I rejected her dad's offer to work at his office as a financial analyst. I told her I'm leaving the southeast and I'm going to follow through with my goal. She has been passive aggressive since lol. I told her that she can just fly a plane to wherever I'm at, but she is hell bent in staying in Tennessee.

 

[Lozboss]

Then it's the end of the relationship.

Next her and pursue your dreams and goals.

 

[Tictac]

Your goals, your life are primary.

Hers are secondary.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Lozboss is right. You need to move on. Tell her if she's not willing to follow you, then that's the end of the relationship. If you really like her, say "I want you to come with me, but I will not change my dreams for you". She is NOT your first priority, keep that in mind.

That's what I pretty much told her and she brought up the love bs.

 

[Lozboss]

That's what I pretty much told her and she brought up the love bs.

Doesn't change your priorities.

NEXT her TODAY and move on with your life.

/thread

 

[Darth]

That's what I pretty much told her and she brought up the love bs.

This is MANIPULATIVE. Clearly she is not high-quality, so do what you want. Even if she was high-quality, she would let you do what you want. So you see either way, you do what you want.

Coercion from a woman is a deal breaker (for me).

 

[Mike32ct]

Stick to your guns man. It's easiest to leave now because you are young. It will get much harder to leave when you are older, plus you will resent her for making you stay.