Help my ego is getting best of me!

[newtothis_]

So recently discovered who my ex has been dating since our split.

He's a watered down beta version of me, his sense of humor is corny, he's less attractive, he's older and has physical weaknesses (injuries that limit his activities)

It just seems like a big slap in the face that she seems happier with him than me. It's eating away at my ego. I don't want her back but it's definitely making me feel inferior or something which is odd. I'd rather she now be with a super alpha or something.

 

[HoneyHitter]

You're being insecure.

The majority of girls only settle for:
1) their alpha guy who controls them, or
2) a beta guy that's under their control

If she considers you something in between those two ends of the mating spectrum, you're considered suboptimal. Why? I'll let you figure that out by yourself. Keywords: ego, attraction.

Move on. Don't dwell on mismatches.

 

[Tictac]

At least you know it's your ego.

So stop that.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Hookers.

Then take a picture when you're done (clothes on) and post on FB. I'd wager for an extra $20 they'd do that finger point thing at your johnson with a shocked look on their face.

Or, if you want, you could pull random girls off the street, tell them you're trying to get your ex jealous, take pics with them, and then post all pics on FB.

The activity alone will boost your ego and help you forget her.

 

[sodbuster]

WHY do you actually shive a git WHO she dates? One of my ex girlfriends introduced me {all PROUD} to her NEW boyfriend..... He's about 8" shorter than I am, has a speech impediment, makes 1/10th of what I do, etc. The only thing he has is he's younger than I am. BUT, she's the boss and she wasn't the boss with me....

 

[Tenacity]

These "alpha" and "beta" labels have got to go lol.

 

[newtothis_]

Lol I know guys it's mostly bc of the way she ended things, she was super insulting and told me things I lacked etc

Then couple months later she happens to find the "perfect" bf who magically possesses everything she claimed I didn't have.

But from what I've seen he seems like a push over with a corny sense of humor and generic personality. It's the only ex situation that's been eating at me I usually just brush it off and move on.

Plus her friends didn't like me and they all seem to praise this new guy. It's a weird attack that my ego can't let go of idk why. She wasn't that great either! Maybe that's why haha

 

[Eco-J]

I sympathize -- I often joke that my ex moved on to someone who was old, ugly, stupid, and personality free! And it did rub my ego the wrong way for awhile, but the reality is (1) after being w/ someone w/ a strong personality she probably was looking for someone who was really into her and wouldn't question/push back on her ideas and (2) they legitimately have a lot of common interests.

I still roll my eyes when I think about it, but I don't think about it much anymore. In the end, it really doesn't matter who they're fvcking, it matters who you're fvcking!

 

[zekko]

These "alpha" and "beta" labels have got to go lol.

Agreed. They certainly don't seem to be relevant in this thread.