"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
HELP!!my brother is a skinny little twig
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PrimetimeDeliverance
Don Juan
Waking people up from apathy is a waste of your time. Yes, he's your brother, but he'll learn. When he can't get the girl he wants, when he's tired of feeling insecure, maybe then he'll be ready to make sacrifices.
You can only support people, thinking you can change them to be like you is just silly.
My bro doesnlt even hit the gym and you know what he doesn't care.
Yeah I take the mick out of him now and again for being skinny, but its not like its my job to motivate him to get into the gym if he doesn';t want to.
Focus on your goals, not his.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
Get a girl friend of yours to fake havin a crush on him and have her tell him to work out if he wants to date her LOL That might get him in the gym for a bit eh?
Also, maybe just go to the gym with him? He won't do it by himself but if big bro is there pumpin weights with him he might think differently. Unless of course your mum as pussified him to the point of no return, LOL
Damian
Senior Don Juan
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RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
not everyones life is centered around woman, Fortunately.
Exactly, and then start competitions based on stuff like who can improve the most, he'll win usually since both percentage wise and just counting the weight he added to his lifts will be higher at first. Now thats motivation.
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Meanwhile his bench is stuck at 135 lbs and he wonders why lolCreate Reality
Master Don Juan
But dude, its all about power-to-weight ratio.Originally posted by Shiftkey
At least your brother knows he's skinny. My brother is 6'1" 140 lbs and he thinks he's buff because he keeps his BF% at 8%
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.