"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HELP!!my brother is a skinny little twig

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how can i motivate the **** out of him to ****ing bulk up?? for real. i always try but this skinny nerd doesnt really listen.....how can i open his eyes HELP
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Double
how can i motivate the **** out of him to ****ing bulk up?? for real. i always try but this skinny nerd doesnt really listen.....how can i open his eyes HELP
beat him up, punch him, etc etc. until he has to bulk up to defend himself
 

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yeah man i had the same idea but problem is he has no honor and goes cry to our mum and she doesnt understand that i teach masculine education to my brother for the best of him. ****ing ****. so if you have any other ideas let me hear em man.
 
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I know its a novel idea, but did you ever think that its something he has to grow into himself? Stop trying to "open his eyes".

Waking people up from apathy is a waste of your time. Yes, he's your brother, but he'll learn. When he can't get the girl he wants, when he's tired of feeling insecure, maybe then he'll be ready to make sacrifices.

You can only support people, thinking you can change them to be like you is just silly.
 

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spot on...

My bro doesnlt even hit the gym and you know what he doesn't care.

Yeah I take the mick out of him now and again for being skinny, but its not like its my job to motivate him to get into the gym if he doesn';t want to.

Focus on your goals, not his.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Create Reality

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^ These 2 guyz are dumbsh1ts.

Get a girl friend of yours to fake havin a crush on him and have her tell him to work out if he wants to date her LOL That might get him in the gym for a bit eh?

Also, maybe just go to the gym with him? He won't do it by himself but if big bro is there pumpin weights with him he might think differently. Unless of course your mum as pussified him to the point of no return, LOL
 

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One thing that you can do is to treat your brother a little better. If you don't treat him with respect, he loses self esteem and he won't want to improve himself. Be a good brother and invite him to come work out with you. Give him positive feedback and make it a fun experience for him. Be nice to him and make it a routine to go working out with your brother. If you can make it an enjoyable experience, he'll start to feel motivated to do it.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Create Reality
^ These 2 guyz are dumbsh1ts.

Get a girl friend of yours to fake havin a crush on him and have her tell him to work out if he wants to date her LOL That might get him in the gym for a bit eh?

Also, maybe just go to the gym with him? He won't do it by himself but if big bro is there pumpin weights with him he might think differently. Unless of course your mum as pussified him to the point of no return, LOL
not everyones life is centered around woman, Fortunately.

Originally posted by Damian
One thing that you can do is to treat your brother a little better. If you don't treat him with respect, he loses self esteem and he won't want to improve himself. Be a good brother and invite him to come work out with you. Give him positive feedback and make it a fun experience for him. Be nice to him and make it a routine to go working out with your brother. If you can make it an enjoyable experience, he'll start to feel motivated to do it.

-Damian
Exactly, and then start competitions based on stuff like who can improve the most, he'll win usually since both percentage wise and just counting the weight he added to his lifts will be higher at first. Now thats motivation.
 

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At least your brother knows he's skinny. My brother is 6'1" 140 lbs and he thinks he's buff because he keeps his BF% at 8% :rolleyes: Meanwhile his bench is stuck at 135 lbs and he wonders why lol
 

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Originally posted by Shiftkey
At least your brother knows he's skinny. My brother is 6'1" 140 lbs and he thinks he's buff because he keeps his BF% at 8% :rolleyes: Meanwhile his bench is stuck at 135 lbs and he wonders why lol
But dude, its all about power-to-weight ratio. :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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