"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.

P.S. I am sincerly hoping that you can help me conquer my dilemma, enabling me to have a good night's rest; with this heavy burden off my chest.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What's the heavy burden that you have? It sounds like you already know what you're doing wrong... doing nothing but playing video games. It's a crutch, pure and simple. I mean, if you want to "change your life", how do you think that it's going to happen if you don't do something to actually change it?

Keep on playing games - it won't change anything. Whatever you want has to come from within. Sure maybe it sounds like psychobabble but it's true. If you want to ever make a change, then you're going to have to change whatever it is that's causing the problem in the first place.

Go to bed. :)
 

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Should I change -- by not playing video games; focusing more on school work?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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no, no need at all.

i'm sure that you can become a succesful lawyer by playing video games all day long..



:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.

P.S. I am sincerly hoping that you can help me conquer my dilemma, enabling me to have a good night's rest; with this heavy burden off my chest.
Dude are you sure you want to be a lawyer? Where is the motivation? You seem to like Video Games more. The hardest thing to studying is the start, once you start then you won't stop. How old are you? Yeah man I was the same way, I loved playing my PS2, going out late, hanging out with friends, chicks etc etc. But once I knew my goal, I got motivated and let those things go. Have Fun, but concentrate on your goal...BECOMING A LAWYER. Video games won't get you anywhere.
How bout this...
Set a Schedule for yourself.
Studying 2 hours
Video Games 1 hour
Back to studying etc etc.
That usually always helps, keep the schedule. Almost like a DJ BOOTCAMP.
 

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Re: Re: Help my aspirations become possible!

Originally posted by AIR-PILOT
Dude are you sure you want to be a lawyer? Where is the motivation? You seem to like Video Games more. The hardest thing to studying is the start, once you start then you won't stop. How old are you? Yeah man I was the same way, I loved playing my PS2, going out late, hanging out with friends, chicks etc etc. But once I knew my goal, I got motivated and let those things go. Have Fun, but concentrate on your goal...BECOMING A LAWYER. Video games won't get you anywhere.
How bout this...
Set a Schedule for yourself.
Studying 2 hours
Video Games 1 hour
Back to studying etc etc.
That usually always helps, keep the schedule. Almost like a DJ BOOTCAMP.
I was a bit vague I admit. I do have a schedule akin to the one you gave me. In fact, stricter. Less games, more studying. Games have been restricted to weekends; late at night -- when I finish everything planned for that day.

What is in question is whether I should drop gaming all together and do something more constructive.

BELIEVE me, I AM VERY motivated to practice law. I particpate in anything which entails debates, politics, etc.

My work ethics are in question. Not my motivation.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
no, no need at all.

i'm sure that you can become a succesful lawyer by playing video games all day long..



:rolleyes:
Where did you pull the idea that I play all day. Please: Read the thread before posting.

Note: I am asking for suggestions on whether to incorporate it in my schedule/life. Not subsituting it with school work.
 

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Dude, stop making posts saying "what should I do to my life!?" This is atleast the 3rd post of yours that I read that is like this...

Only YOU can get your life straight, so stop whining about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Eternal
Dude, stop making posts saying "what should I do to my life!?" This is atleast the 3rd post of yours that I read that is like this...

Only YOU can get your life straight, so stop whining about it.
Eternal, READ the damn thread before replying. Apparently, YOU are the only one whining about it.

Furthermore, I am not whining -- I am seeking advice on HOW I CAN get MY LIFE straight.

Go post something constructive. Get at least ONE out of your 5,381 posts to COUNT.

On-another-note: excuse me fellow DJs. Now in reference to the scope of the thread; what do you think?
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
Eternal, READ the damn thread before replying. Apparently, YOU are the only one whining about it.

Furthermore, I am not whining -- I am seeking advice on HOW I CAN get MY LIFE straight.

Go post something constructive. Get at least ONE out of your 5,381 posts to COUNT.

On-another-note: excuse me fellow DJs. Now in reference to the scope of the thread; what do you think?
I have more than enough constrcutive and quality posts.

I also know not to post the same question in a half dozen forums.
 

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Originally posted by Eternal
I have more than enough constrcutive and quality posts.

I also know not to post the same question in a half dozen forums.
Well, I know that I should post the same questions in THREE different sub-sections of the forum in order to obtain responses from various people.

Keep in mind not everyone goes to every sub-section in this forum.
 

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I have reached my decision. When I get back from the gym I will make a thread dedicated to it.

I will include the link. Expect it around: 8-9pm
 

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Fitch,
You know what you have to do. Closed
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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