"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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backbreaker

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Okay, quick rundown. I'm not in horrible shape. shoot, I'm not in bad shape. I'm about 2 months from being where I want to end up, if that, just loose some of the fat from around my wist, and that's really it, maybe tone up my bi's and chest a tad bit more.

Anyway, I just can't find time to workout. I work about 12-13 hours a day. I like to sleep every once in a while. I feel like **** becuase I ask myself to do what amounts to the impossible and I expect myself to, and I get fustrated when I can't.

Any words/help would be greatly appricated
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Potbelly

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ok by tone up I guess you mean lose fat like you said. however you cannot spot reduce from certain areas you'd like to such as your waist and chest. instead you must do cardio while lifting heavy to maintain as much muscle mass as possible. also, get a clean diet and eat enough calories.

man you work a lot. however, a workout is a pretty quickie thing to do. it shouldn't take hours. maybe cut away some computer time or tv time and you will have time for a workout. cardio...wake up a bit earlier and do some cardio. also, remember losing fat and looking good will take time so do not expect to get there fast. that should take some of the pressure off yourself knowing it will be a gradual progression. good luck
 

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For you I thinnk diet would be key, unless you already eat clean. Try having 5-6 small meals a day, it speeds up matabolism. And like Potbelly said a workout shouldn't take that long. Only 45 minutes or so.
 

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backbreaker said:
Okay, quick rundown. I'm not in horrible shape. shoot, I'm not in bad shape. I'm about 2 months from being where I want to end up, if that, just loose some of the fat from around my wist, and that's really it, maybe tone up my bi's and chest a tad bit more.

Anyway, I just can't find time to workout. I work about 12-13 hours a day. I like to sleep every once in a while. I feel like **** becuase I ask myself to do what amounts to the impossible and I expect myself to, and I get fustrated when I can't.

Any words/help would be greatly appricated
I like being fat because i have high self esteem and im proud of my rolls. I feel so sorry for those mucsly bulky body builder guys. Some of them just look so scary and mad most of the time. Besides my husband says Im beautiful just how I am. Ive only gained about 160 pounds since our marriage. I would go to the gym but I am constantly busy running after these kids. Well i have to go. Its my time of the day to eat a gallon of ice cream and go watch The Days of Our Lives
 
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