"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Help me out

AlexTheGreat

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I'm getting frustrated here, someone help me out. First of all, I'll lay down a few things : I'm francophone, french, though not my maternal language, is the one I'm most fluent in. In english, I can speak and understand without problem someone talk, but when it's my turn, I have a really big french accent. Also, I'm not fluent at all : as in, I have to search my words every time, and it's almost like I'm translating in english what I say subconciously in my head in french.

So, here's where the problem gets bad : I get on the bus after school today, and there was this girl, maybe HB7.5, sitting there. We make eye contact, and she smiles before I even really checked her out (as in, very quickly). So, I smile back, no problem here. She was sitting alone, but then I stumbled : I couldn't get myself to go up to her and talk to her in english. Thing is, I don't have this problem when I talk in french : I can go up to anyone and strike up a convo and all is well.

So, how can I make myself more confortable with my sucky english speaking and recover my confidence when faced with english-only girls ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Relax dude! Here is what i would do. write down things or questions you would like to say to her in english an memorize them. then go say them to her and dont worry about your accent. It will make you interesting and she may think it to be sexy. If you dont unerstand her answer ask her to explain it so you can understand. Then tell her you would like her to teach you english better and that will give you an excuse to be around her. Try it and Dont Sweat It DUDE!
 
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If you know any English female friends, you could ask to practise with them which may help your confidence. Just an idea.
 

Best friends? NAY

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Maybe walk up and say soemthing in french (just a few words) when she looks at be like "sorry my name is AlexTheGreat shake her hand then ask her some questions, she will most defidently ask you if you are french or something which should give ya a few minuetes of chater.

Use it to your advantage.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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girls love guys with accents. Use it to your advantage and you should be able to get chicks no problem
 

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Well I think your questions have been answered already but if you want to be a DJ you're going to have to face it some time or another. This is truth but you can actually pick up girls without saying a word I have seen it happen before. Just remember that and talking just makes it easier a saying that I remember is "what you focus on gets bigger" well something like that. There is no point memorising things I don't think because if you are speaking properly for half of the conversation then you can't speak so good the chick will pick up on it.
 
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