"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jdawgmcb

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Now i know im not the best looking guy around, so i'd like you to let me know what i can do to my face to make it look better.

 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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vitor

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I agree go get a Short haircut, a #1 on the sides with a fade, cut your hair short, maybe spike it up. Get some sun, get some Contacts, and clean your room.
 

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You're not a bad looking guy at all. In fact I would go on to say that as you get older you are going to be a very good looking guy, especially if you work on your body. But facially you have a ton to work with.

Just off the top of my head. Lose the glasses. Hideous. Get a hair cut. I would say shorter and either a fauxhawk or a messy spike look.

Grow some sort of chin facial hair, or a slight beard with the cheeks shaved so the hair rims the outside of your face.

Good luck!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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AaJ321

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The obvious would probably be loose the glasses, work out. Get a tan, Than visit a high quality hairstylist. In right now is short, faux hawk. Either way if your paying for a quality haircut you can ask them what would work best for your face.
 

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jdawgmcb said:
Now i know im not the best looking guy around, so i'd like you to let me know what i can do to my face to make it look better.

No homo, but your actually a good lucking guy. If you get rid of the glasses, get some contacts, get a new haircut (shorter, cuz ur hair doesnt seem that curly when its long and in my opinion, long hair only works if its curly). You dont need to be darkly tanned, but you def dont wanna be white as a ghost. Finally, work out a little bit, ya know just get some cut and tone to you.

I think if you can do all that, your gonna wind up as not a good lookin guy, but a GREAT looking guy. Your lucky that you have a clean face with no acne and clear skin.
 

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vitor said:
I agree go get a Short haircut, a #1 on the sides with a fade, cut your hair short, maybe spike it up. Get some sun, get some Contacts, and clean your room.
dont want to start a debate about the best hair length but ive gotta disagree with that. my personal opinion is that short spiked up hair is a bit boyish and makes you look younger.

i've got longish hair and it suits me, i think it would a lot of guys too.

and yeah a tan always looks good, but it won't change your game much i don't think

im white as paper and skinny but i don't let it affect me, everyone has something they'd change
 

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keep the glasses, darken your hair, and wear tight jeans and a black shirt with a skull or the name of a band on it.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Dude get thinner frames if you dont want to get into contacts and quit worrying about looking bad. I would not rate your face but I would rate your confidence low because you're worrying about what other people think about your looks.
You'd look sweet with a buzzcut, or even with your hair gelled up.

Other than that, clean your room, smile more and work on that confidence damnit!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I was joking with my last post, but if you're going to keep the glasses, do NOT get thinner frames. Glasses should be emphasized for style. They should also compliment the rest of your features, so seriously consider darkening your hair and clothes to go with the frames. Trust me, it will make a huge difference. I wear thick, black glasses and I pull it off very well :D
 

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I don't see anything wrong with you. If its your style then stick with it. Don't be a sheep and get a short hair cut because everybody else is. I think the most important thing is to show women that you look after yourself. That shows that you like yourself and value yourself ie high value.


What sort of cloths and shoes do you wear? Thats what you should be concentrating on regarding appearance. Also diet, fitness etc.
 

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I'm going to be straight up with you. You're a good looking kid, but it's hidden by that unkept hair and thick glasses. That style looks like a cross between Shaggy and Velma from Scooby Doo.

Either sweep you hair across like so or get it cut short and messy.
 

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You could even keep the frames, get your hair cut like the one maverick suggests or something asymetrical and it would work well together.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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You look fine to me... If you want to change your appearance though... Maybe, use contacts or glasses that arent as thick. Style your hair different or get it cut. Maybe, even grow some facial hair.
 

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im not being the guy that says "get a haircut" to everyone with longish hair but short hair would suit you better
 

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jdawgmcb said:
Now i know im not the best looking guy around, so i'd like you to let me know what i can do to my face to make it look better.

Just get a medium haircut and get those rimless glasses or better yet go for contacts.

Join a gym if you don't feel fit in your clothes.
 

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jdawgmcb said:
Now i know im not the best looking guy around, so i'd like you to let me know what i can do to my face to make it look better.

Get a positive personality to start first of.

Secondly, if you want the harsh truth, there is nothing wrong with you but you choose to look like an overgrown Harry Potter Fan and this look gots to go.

- The Glasses got to go. They are too thick. Look for contacts instead.
- Now I know you can be more creative with your hair, find yourself a barber and get a trendy haircut.
- You look like a skinny dude (just by the face) so bulking up will work wonders for you.
- Also try to grow some facial hair, you do have a baby face which makes it look like you are younger then you are.

Good luck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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