"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help me get a good C+F reply guys,.,..

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She said


"You seem to have a picture that im this majorly gorgeous woman...i mean...i know Im attractive...but im not a supermodel...so dont have huge expectations, you never know...im short...i have "junk in the trunk" (menaing a big ass) small boobs...so i dunno what your looking for...but there u go... :) talk later hope you have a good day..."


What can I say to be funny and get the number close?

Thank guys!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ask for her number.
 

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Well, I am not sure what this girls frame of reference going into this, but I can make two observations outside of the C/F stuff.

You're going way overboard in complimenting her appearance-that response looks to me like you've done it more than once. Which has the following repercussions:

1) Clear DLV for you if you keep putting her on pedestal. This can happen with HBs or even average chicks if you go overboard (looks like you already have).

2) You're going to make her uncomfortable with too many compliments. She's going to start by worrying that she you are holding her to an unattainable standard, and from then, decide that you must not get any offers from decent looking women, or you're really desperate or needy (more DLV). Then she has as seen enough to start disqualifying you in other areas.

Be careful. C/F won't help you if she thinks you're needy.
 
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I did NOT compliment her once! She just came at me with that email. We chatted for like 10 minutes last night. I already asked for the #, she hasnt given it yet.

I told her I only date supermodels so maybe that has something to do with it.. LOL.

I can't think of anything to say OTHER than asking for the #.

Any help guys?
 

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Have you ever seen this girl in person?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mavrick said:
Have you ever seen this girl in person?
Just met her last night online. Got any help with a reply? I'm about to go it alone and yes, ask for the #. It would help to be funny before that part.
 

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Just met her last night online. Got any help with a reply? I'm about to go it alone and yes, ask for the #. It would help to be funny before that part.
Well, she's basically telling you that she's ugly. NEXT!
 
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Mavrick said:
Well, she's basically telling you that she's ugly. NEXT!
Whatever she doesn't look ugly. I'm not just going to next her because she has low self esteem. I have seen some pics.
 

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You have a low self-esteem.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."
 
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MotownMack said:
Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."

Oh man thats pretty good! Thanks I'm using it. I haven't hit send yet. You the man!
 

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>_<

I need to write an article on MySpace game. Maybe get it Bibled. I know how to avoid awkward situations like this.

What should I call it? The Vice Method? lol
 
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MotownMack said:
Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."

The deed is done. Thanks Motown. I'll let you know when she replies. That was nice.
 

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I know how to avoid awkward situations like this.
At least one chapter should be dealing with awkward situations, not avoiding them. I can promise you, especially when it comes to the misunderstandings involved when it comes to electronic communication, they WILL happen. Making them less awkward and knowing how to bounce back is the key :)


BTW, there are not too many areas where I am borderline arrogant, but I am master of the Internet dating game when it comes to online macking. The reason I am here is to parlay that into real life, and cut the Internet thing out of the picture altogether, more than likely. It's better than nothing for meeting women, but there are too many unknowns.

I at least want "co-author" credit in your book :D

Thanks Motown. I'll let you know when she replies. That was nice.
NP. It will get a laugh out of her, and it was pretty ****y. Let us know how it goes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MotownMack said:
At least one chapter should be dealing with awkward situations, not avoiding them. I can promise you, especially when it comes to the misunderstandings involved when it comes to electronic communication, they WILL happen. Making them less awkward and knowing how to bounce back is the key :)


BTW, there are not too many areas where I am borderline arrogant, but I am master of the Internet dating game when it comes to online macking. The reason I am here is to parlay that into real life, and cut the Internet thing out of the picture altogether, more than likely. It's better than nothing for meeting women, but there are too many unknowns.

I at least want "co-author" credit in your book :D



NP. It will get a laugh out of her, and it was pretty ****y. Let us know how it goes.
Well, we'll have to wait for summer to start because I'm loaded with schoolwork right now.

Plus our methods may be different, but that's good because we can fine-tune it.

We can even charge for it! :D
 
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Take a look at this reply I just got from a new potential plate..

"I actually don't have guys trying to pick me up all the time (although you're close with the emails). I've been told by drunken male friends that I am intimidating.

The most creative try I've ever experienced though was this guy who told me that he wanted to start a cult and would I be willing to be the object of worship? I almost died laughing."


What would you say to THAT?
 

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That's weird for a girl to say that unless she doesn't want any guy going after her. I mean imagine telling a girl "I know I'm attractive, but I'm not THAT attractive. I'm short, I have acne on my face and I'm skinny...so I don't know what you want" No guy would tell a girl that unless he feels that this chick is being needy and attached to him and he wants her to go away.
 
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baurman said:
That's weird for a girl to say that unless she doesn't want any guy going after her. I mean imagine telling a girl "I know I'm attractive, but I'm not THAT attractive. I'm short, I have acne on my face and I'm skinny...so I don't know what you want" No guy would tell a girl that unless he feels that this chick is being needy and attached to him and he wants her to go away.


I think she said it because I told her I only date supermodels. I was joking ofcourse. Maybe she thought I was serious. Who the hell knows! We chatted once, I didn't compliment her at all. Just trying to get the # now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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