"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Help me get a good C+F reply guys,.,..

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She said


"You seem to have a picture that im this majorly gorgeous woman...i mean...i know Im attractive...but im not a supermodel...so dont have huge expectations, you never know...im short...i have "junk in the trunk" (menaing a big ass) small boobs...so i dunno what your looking for...but there u go... :) talk later hope you have a good day..."


What can I say to be funny and get the number close?

Thank guys!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ask for her number.
 

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Well, I am not sure what this girls frame of reference going into this, but I can make two observations outside of the C/F stuff.

You're going way overboard in complimenting her appearance-that response looks to me like you've done it more than once. Which has the following repercussions:

1) Clear DLV for you if you keep putting her on pedestal. This can happen with HBs or even average chicks if you go overboard (looks like you already have).

2) You're going to make her uncomfortable with too many compliments. She's going to start by worrying that she you are holding her to an unattainable standard, and from then, decide that you must not get any offers from decent looking women, or you're really desperate or needy (more DLV). Then she has as seen enough to start disqualifying you in other areas.

Be careful. C/F won't help you if she thinks you're needy.
 
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I did NOT compliment her once! She just came at me with that email. We chatted for like 10 minutes last night. I already asked for the #, she hasnt given it yet.

I told her I only date supermodels so maybe that has something to do with it.. LOL.

I can't think of anything to say OTHER than asking for the #.

Any help guys?
 

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Have you ever seen this girl in person?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mavrick said:
Have you ever seen this girl in person?
Just met her last night online. Got any help with a reply? I'm about to go it alone and yes, ask for the #. It would help to be funny before that part.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Just met her last night online. Got any help with a reply? I'm about to go it alone and yes, ask for the #. It would help to be funny before that part.
Well, she's basically telling you that she's ugly. NEXT!
 
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Mavrick said:
Well, she's basically telling you that she's ugly. NEXT!
Whatever she doesn't look ugly. I'm not just going to next her because she has low self esteem. I have seen some pics.
 

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You have a low self-esteem.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."
 
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MotownMack said:
Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."

Oh man thats pretty good! Thanks I'm using it. I haven't hit send yet. You the man!
 

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>_<

I need to write an article on MySpace game. Maybe get it Bibled. I know how to avoid awkward situations like this.

What should I call it? The Vice Method? lol
 
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MotownMack said:
Ok, thanks for clarifying.

And not to be negative, but if she hasn't given yet, slow down a bit. If you keep pushing for it, I can promise it will turn her off.

But if you must... I might say something like (off the top of my head here):

"Well if that's the case, for a small fee, I'd be happy to give you my expert evaluation on which areas you need to improve in before you're eligible to hang out with me. :) In fact, I am currently offering a Spring special, and all we need to get you started is your phone number."

The deed is done. Thanks Motown. I'll let you know when she replies. That was nice.
 

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I know how to avoid awkward situations like this.
At least one chapter should be dealing with awkward situations, not avoiding them. I can promise you, especially when it comes to the misunderstandings involved when it comes to electronic communication, they WILL happen. Making them less awkward and knowing how to bounce back is the key :)


BTW, there are not too many areas where I am borderline arrogant, but I am master of the Internet dating game when it comes to online macking. The reason I am here is to parlay that into real life, and cut the Internet thing out of the picture altogether, more than likely. It's better than nothing for meeting women, but there are too many unknowns.

I at least want "co-author" credit in your book :D

Thanks Motown. I'll let you know when she replies. That was nice.
NP. It will get a laugh out of her, and it was pretty ****y. Let us know how it goes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MotownMack said:
At least one chapter should be dealing with awkward situations, not avoiding them. I can promise you, especially when it comes to the misunderstandings involved when it comes to electronic communication, they WILL happen. Making them less awkward and knowing how to bounce back is the key :)


BTW, there are not too many areas where I am borderline arrogant, but I am master of the Internet dating game when it comes to online macking. The reason I am here is to parlay that into real life, and cut the Internet thing out of the picture altogether, more than likely. It's better than nothing for meeting women, but there are too many unknowns.

I at least want "co-author" credit in your book :D



NP. It will get a laugh out of her, and it was pretty ****y. Let us know how it goes.
Well, we'll have to wait for summer to start because I'm loaded with schoolwork right now.

Plus our methods may be different, but that's good because we can fine-tune it.

We can even charge for it! :D
 
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Take a look at this reply I just got from a new potential plate..

"I actually don't have guys trying to pick me up all the time (although you're close with the emails). I've been told by drunken male friends that I am intimidating.

The most creative try I've ever experienced though was this guy who told me that he wanted to start a cult and would I be willing to be the object of worship? I almost died laughing."


What would you say to THAT?
 

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That's weird for a girl to say that unless she doesn't want any guy going after her. I mean imagine telling a girl "I know I'm attractive, but I'm not THAT attractive. I'm short, I have acne on my face and I'm skinny...so I don't know what you want" No guy would tell a girl that unless he feels that this chick is being needy and attached to him and he wants her to go away.
 
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baurman said:
That's weird for a girl to say that unless she doesn't want any guy going after her. I mean imagine telling a girl "I know I'm attractive, but I'm not THAT attractive. I'm short, I have acne on my face and I'm skinny...so I don't know what you want" No guy would tell a girl that unless he feels that this chick is being needy and attached to him and he wants her to go away.


I think she said it because I told her I only date supermodels. I was joking ofcourse. Maybe she thought I was serious. Who the hell knows! We chatted once, I didn't compliment her at all. Just trying to get the # now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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