"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Help me figure out this girl

Elijah

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So there is this girl that i've known for a while and im pretty confused about her, we've met through mutual friends, and we're studying together for college. so we see each other on daily basis. sometimes i think she is flirting with me, and sometimes im not sure if thats her way of behaving with guys in general or if she is trying to tell me something. so this is what she basically do when we're together:

Tries to get close to me as much as possible, (did that since day one) positions her legs right next to mine. (she's a pretty attractive girl so at times it got a little uncomfortable for me, but didnt wanna tell her anything that would upset her and i wasn't totally sure why she was doing that) always asking me what are my dreams, hopes, my life. which type of girls i hang out with, etc all that stuff. sometimes her questions felt unnecessary or forcible.

Plays with her jewelry and hair most of the time when im around her.
Caught her starring at me way too many times. when i try to look back at her, she quickly turns her head away, like she's embarrassed or upset or something.

Once we were watching something on her IPhone, and out of no where a scene came out where there was this lady that was flirting with a guy and touched his legs. as soon as that scene came, she quickly looked at me in a flirtatious pose or something and laughed/smiled.

Another thing found odd was that one time her leg touched mine by accident and so she kinda made a small sigh, like she was mad or something and blushed and quickly changed her legs to the other side. which also felt odd to me. there are plenty of other things but this is all that i can remember at the moment.

Oh and sometimes i enter my bedroom just to see her sitting on my bed dangling her shoes like she's waiting for me or something. i dont know if its all in my head, but something screams about this girl that she wanna f**k me. am i reading too much into it? i've been around girls and they never behave like that unless they want something more than your friendship.

I just wanna know why would she do that? like for example with the IPhone situation. does that mean anything?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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“She's a woman, you're a dude. You're not supposed to understand her. That's not what she's after.... She doesn't want you to understand her. She knows that's impossible. She just wants you to understand yourself. Everything else is negotiable.”
― Neal Stephenson, Snow Crash
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Oh and sometimes i enter my bedroom just to see her sitting on my bed dangling her shoes like she's waiting for me or something.

something screams about this girl that she wanna f**k me.


Sounds reasonable. I'd run with that.
 

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The only way to know 100% is to make a move on her. Period. Everything else will be eternal speculation. Go for it.
 
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