Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ok, I'm Ben. I have been going to a new school for like 2 weeks now and theres are plenty of gorgeous girls. I need to sort out my issue of being such a *****. I'm feeling bit upset because I dunno what to do. Can someone please give me a list of articles to read that give solid advice on how to get me started on my way to becoming a DJ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The most common advice is to simply read the DJ bible and do what it says... but this takes dedication.
Don't worry though, make your goal just to improve yourself for now, then go for the girls later on when you know you can handle it.

I can help you on AIM if you have any questions:
Sheltem Alamar

Don't be down on yourself though, cause you're gonna change that little kid attitude into the personaltiy of an irresistable man.
 
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You know self improvement, can someone clear it up, what kinda stuff could I improve myself on?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hmm. Anyone have a motivational article for working out or could possibly post something here because I can never be motivated enough to start working out. much thanks in advance, Ben
 

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man, u do it for urself, motivation has got to come from within, read th H+F vault, it will tell u what to do, read it, bulk up/cut down, improve, read HS/DJ bible, improve more, and then improve again ;)
 

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When ever I'm down I work out extra hard. Almost always works for me. Good luck though dude
 

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dude you have to be 16 to join a gym?
that is pure fvcking bullsh!t, tell them you're 16 but you just look young or something...
 

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superchill89 said:
for the love of god do not take any advice from grand wizard alamar he has no idea what he is talking about
I'm fine, I think you don't know what you're talking about.... :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
You know self improvement, can someone clear it up, what kinda stuff could I improve myself on?
whatever you feel you lack on

hmm. Anyone have a motivational article for working out or could possibly post something here because I can never be motivated enough to start working out. much thanks in advance, Ben
you can post this in the Health and fitness forum , you'll get a better advice there...
 
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thanks for all the replies, Nicenomore, I'm gonna go check it out and see if theres anything I can learn. One thing I have DEFINETLEY gained from this site so far, is belonging, i feel like I belong to a big brotherhood of guys who are close and look after eachother and make sure that we're all ok. And that makes me kinda happy :) so thanks everyone, step in the right direction
 

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a parting tip Ben,

Dont think of why you should exercise . Go out , exercise for a month or two , play a high intensity sport regularly like soccer or basketball and then tell whether you should exercise or not.
 
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ok :) cheers, has anyone got MSN or AIM so I can talk to them in real time. Would be better, I think :)
 

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DJ boot camp is a good start on developing confidence and a stronger inner game.

Then read some articles and lists (use sosuave or google) on what it means to be a real man.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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he told me he needs to be 16 to join a gym where he lives...
 
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18 lol, mum just told me. I mean WTFFFFF man!
just one my rugby match 30-7. Ripped!
One of the big improvements in my life was to join a club about something i wanted to do and i done it :D
 

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18 to join a gym? Don't you have any sporting goods stores in your area? You should just go out and buy some free weights and search the web for exercises you can do in your home. Easy.

Smile a lot more, talk to girls you don't know, look people straight in their eyes when you talk to them, and make friends with the cool guys at your school. Take up a sport you like (looks like you already play rugby), get a job, just make an effort to get your name out there. Most of all, be positive, hold your head up high, and have fun because that's what it's all about. Trust me, you're not THAT busy with your studies until you get to college.
 
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young_gun said:
18 to join a gym? Don't you have any sporting goods stores in your area? You should just go out and buy some free weights and search the web for exercises you can do in your home. Easy.

Smile a lot more, talk to girls you don't know, look people straight in their eyes when you talk to them, and make friends with the cool guys at your school. Take up a sport you like (looks like you already play rugby), get a job, just make an effort to get your name out there. Most of all, be positive, hold your head up high, and have fun because that's what it's all about. Trust me, you're not THAT busy with your studies until you get to college.
most of the people who play rugby are the cool guys in our school and ijust made friends with ALL of them.neat.:D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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