"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, I'm Ben. I have been going to a new school for like 2 weeks now and theres are plenty of gorgeous girls. I need to sort out my issue of being such a *****. I'm feeling bit upset because I dunno what to do. Can someone please give me a list of articles to read that give solid advice on how to get me started on my way to becoming a DJ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The most common advice is to simply read the DJ bible and do what it says... but this takes dedication.
Don't worry though, make your goal just to improve yourself for now, then go for the girls later on when you know you can handle it.

I can help you on AIM if you have any questions:
Sheltem Alamar

Don't be down on yourself though, cause you're gonna change that little kid attitude into the personaltiy of an irresistable man.
 
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You know self improvement, can someone clear it up, what kinda stuff could I improve myself on?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hmm. Anyone have a motivational article for working out or could possibly post something here because I can never be motivated enough to start working out. much thanks in advance, Ben
 

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man, u do it for urself, motivation has got to come from within, read th H+F vault, it will tell u what to do, read it, bulk up/cut down, improve, read HS/DJ bible, improve more, and then improve again ;)
 

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When ever I'm down I work out extra hard. Almost always works for me. Good luck though dude
 

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dude you have to be 16 to join a gym?
that is pure fvcking bullsh!t, tell them you're 16 but you just look young or something...
 

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for the love of god do not take any advice from grand wizard alamar he has no idea what he is talking about
I'm fine, I think you don't know what you're talking about.... :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
You know self improvement, can someone clear it up, what kinda stuff could I improve myself on?
whatever you feel you lack on

hmm. Anyone have a motivational article for working out or could possibly post something here because I can never be motivated enough to start working out. much thanks in advance, Ben
you can post this in the Health and fitness forum , you'll get a better advice there...
 
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thanks for all the replies, Nicenomore, I'm gonna go check it out and see if theres anything I can learn. One thing I have DEFINETLEY gained from this site so far, is belonging, i feel like I belong to a big brotherhood of guys who are close and look after eachother and make sure that we're all ok. And that makes me kinda happy :) so thanks everyone, step in the right direction
 

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a parting tip Ben,

Dont think of why you should exercise . Go out , exercise for a month or two , play a high intensity sport regularly like soccer or basketball and then tell whether you should exercise or not.
 
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ok :) cheers, has anyone got MSN or AIM so I can talk to them in real time. Would be better, I think :)
 

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DJ boot camp is a good start on developing confidence and a stronger inner game.

Then read some articles and lists (use sosuave or google) on what it means to be a real man.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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he told me he needs to be 16 to join a gym where he lives...
 
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18 lol, mum just told me. I mean WTFFFFF man!
just one my rugby match 30-7. Ripped!
One of the big improvements in my life was to join a club about something i wanted to do and i done it :D
 

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18 to join a gym? Don't you have any sporting goods stores in your area? You should just go out and buy some free weights and search the web for exercises you can do in your home. Easy.

Smile a lot more, talk to girls you don't know, look people straight in their eyes when you talk to them, and make friends with the cool guys at your school. Take up a sport you like (looks like you already play rugby), get a job, just make an effort to get your name out there. Most of all, be positive, hold your head up high, and have fun because that's what it's all about. Trust me, you're not THAT busy with your studies until you get to college.
 
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young_gun said:
18 to join a gym? Don't you have any sporting goods stores in your area? You should just go out and buy some free weights and search the web for exercises you can do in your home. Easy.

Smile a lot more, talk to girls you don't know, look people straight in their eyes when you talk to them, and make friends with the cool guys at your school. Take up a sport you like (looks like you already play rugby), get a job, just make an effort to get your name out there. Most of all, be positive, hold your head up high, and have fun because that's what it's all about. Trust me, you're not THAT busy with your studies until you get to college.
most of the people who play rugby are the cool guys in our school and ijust made friends with ALL of them.neat.:D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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