Help me deal with this...

[Triangulo]

I was seeing this girl for about a month and half. Today she tells me that she wants be "friends", and that our relationships will not work. However, she said that if i want to call I should. She also said that we can go out and that if we feel like hooking up, it will happen. She gave me a couple of reasons for this relationship not working out:

1. whenever we go out, we do the same thing. (many times we park the car in the beach and just sit there)
2. i dont have a set plan (i screwed up on "being in control) aka- i would ask her what we should do, where we should go.
3. We only make plans and not actually execute them.
4. I never asked her if she wanted to stay at that particular place or where she would want to go.

How should i deal with this fellows? Im really confused, and i liked/like this girl. Should i just not ever call her again? Should i go out with her with the "friend" mentality?(hard to do)
What should i do?? What would you guys do in my place?

Ps. I still sense that she might still like me,however i dont want to keep that door very open because i might get hurt in the end.HELP!

 

[Vigilante7]

HOLY SH!T

Read the fuking DJ BIBLE !!!!

Stop posting fuking retarded threads

Read the damn bible and dump her azz and move fuking on !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now i see why everyone has left this fuking forum

 

[WestCoaster]

Start dating lots of women ASAP

Dating lots of women is a great remedy which I learned at way too late of age. It's a sure-fire cure for oneitis.

You start going out with other women and all of the sudden you start thinking, "Wait a sec, she's way better than the last woman I was with," or, "She has some interesting qualities the other one didn't have," and so forth.

I hate the terms, "soul mate," or "she's the only one for me." You literally can fall deeply in love with millions of women on this earth. The one you settle down with has little to do with fate, but more to do with timing, being in the same town or city as a woman and being in the same mental frame at the time. Hopefully you can take pride in being single.

That said, when you're dating all these women make sure you "parade" a few by the old woman, make sure she sees you. And make sure they are hotter than she is. You'll watch her get jealous is two seconds flat, works every time.

But you must start dating others ASAP. Oh yeah, read the DJ Bible and articles from this site.

 

[Triangulo]

I should give up on her totally? What about the idea of **** buddies?

 

[Sex0r]

Originally posted by Triangulo
1. whenever we go out, we do the same thing. (many times we park the car in the beach and just sit there)
2. i dont have a set plan (i screwed up on "being in control) aka- i would ask her what we should do, where we should go.
3. We only make plans and not actually execute them.
4. I never asked her if she wanted to stay at that particular place or where she would want to go.

Well if u don't wanna use the "date other women option", then u could start by doing those 4 things that u were NOT doing..D'UH!
tho date others is better lol

 

[Knicknack]

you tried to seek her approval WAY TOO MUCH. the first 30 dates or so should be EVERYTHING you want to do. if she suggests something and YOU feel like doing it, then do it. you are a wuss and need to fix your inner game.

 

[Reto]

Live and learn.

You messed up and she did you a favor by telling you what you did wrong. I'm sure it sucked hearing it. Don't do it again. Have a plan. Have a back up plan. And even a back, back up plan.

I would loose her. You won't move on unless you do. You'll keep thinking, "maybe she'll change her mind." She won't. It's too late.

Being an F buddy will just perpetuate things and make it worse. You have feelings for her. Say you are F buddies and she hooks up with another guy (which she will). How are you gonna feel? It's gonna suck all over again.

Move on to the next one. Learn what you can. Move on to the next one. Then the next until you find a keeper...