You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.Ace of Flames said:Try.... like.... a search? I hear they work wonders.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's it! Thanks brother.QueRico said:are you talking about Sapiens thread? check here,
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=87781
lmaoDemocles said:Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.
How old are you? 13?
Listen A55wipe, if you were more mature you would have refrained from posting once the thread was properly answered. You are a fool, no matter at 18 you are excused for being soo stupid.Ace of Flames said:I'm 18, and no matter how old you may be, I'm much more mature.
Haha, you want to join my "Ace of Flames sucks club"?Democles said:Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.
How old are you? 13?
I approve of this club. You should join it, Democles. It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^reallyfreakinlost said:Haha, you want to join my "Ace of Flames sucks club"?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ofcourse I am ingnorant you fool, that's why I am looking for Sapiens thread.Ace of Flames said:I approve of this club. You should join it, Democles. It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^
And Democles, you're constant cussing and insults speak volumes about your character. How ignorant you must be. Sad.
I don't think you should charge that poor gentleman with the heinous crime of being obsessed over you, that's a charge nobody should endure.Ace of Flames said:It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^
And who asked for your opinion? When I want your opinion I will give it to you, now p1ss off. I also would tell you the same face to face punk.Espi said:Posts like these demonstrate why newbies should have to pay to join this site. Frankly, it's pretty disrepectful when a newbie comes in here and runs his mouth off to other members.
Trust me, Dumbassales: You wouldn't get away with it in a person-to-person environment.
Watch your mouth.
The only time you pissed me off was the very first time I flamed the hell out of you. That also seems to be the time you started "harrassing" me.reallyfreakinlost said:And you think I'm obsessed with you? I bring you up all the time because I love to piss you off, maybe you piss me off in return but this is the beauty of the internet.
You really think you pissed me off when you said I should jump off a bridge? Man, that gave me high blood pressure, I got a stroke this morning.Ace of Flames said:The only time you pissed me off was the very first time I flamed the hell out of you. That also seems to be the time you started "harrassing" me.
Now, I think its fun. I see you posted on a thread I posted in, and I think "Oh god, let's see what kinda crap he's come up with this time." We may not agree on much of anything, but hey, we'd be boring if we were the same.
Bring it on, arch-nemesis!![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hahaha, your whole attitude changes when I tell you that you don't piss me off. Classic.reallyfreakinlost said:You really think you pissed me off when you said I should jump off a bridge? Man, that gave me high blood pressure, I got a stroke this morning.
By the way, I called you arch-nemesis because some idiot thought I was talking to him, so I referred to you carelessly as my arch-nemesis. sorry to burst your bubble but you're not that important to me, you're just somebody I like to refute on a regular, daily basis.have a nice day
And you can tell my attitude when I type a smiley face? believe me, I am laughing my ass off after I read each word you type. your writing is PURE GOLDAce of Flames said:Hahaha, your whole attitude changes when I tell you that you don't piss me off. Classic.
And vice-versa for you.reallyfreakinlost said:And you can tell my attitude when I type a smiley face? believe me, I am laughing my ass off after I read each word you type. your writing is PURE GOLD
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.