Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.Ace of Flames said:Try.... like.... a search? I hear they work wonders.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That's it! Thanks brother.QueRico said:are you talking about Sapiens thread? check here,
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=87781
lmaoDemocles said:Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.
How old are you? 13?
Listen A55wipe, if you were more mature you would have refrained from posting once the thread was properly answered. You are a fool, no matter at 18 you are excused for being soo stupid.Ace of Flames said:I'm 18, and no matter how old you may be, I'm much more mature.
Haha, you want to join my "Ace of Flames sucks club"?Democles said:Thanks fool, don't you think I already tried? I would not waste your time if I didn't. Next time don't reply if you are too stupid to help. Thanks for nothing punk.
How old are you? 13?
I approve of this club. You should join it, Democles. It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^reallyfreakinlost said:Haha, you want to join my "Ace of Flames sucks club"?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ofcourse I am ingnorant you fool, that's why I am looking for Sapiens thread.Ace of Flames said:I approve of this club. You should join it, Democles. It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^
And Democles, you're constant cussing and insults speak volumes about your character. How ignorant you must be. Sad.
I don't think you should charge that poor gentleman with the heinous crime of being obsessed over you, that's a charge nobody should endure.Ace of Flames said:It only proves further that you guys are obsessed with me. ^_^
And who asked for your opinion? When I want your opinion I will give it to you, now p1ss off. I also would tell you the same face to face punk.Espi said:Posts like these demonstrate why newbies should have to pay to join this site. Frankly, it's pretty disrepectful when a newbie comes in here and runs his mouth off to other members.
Trust me, Dumbassales: You wouldn't get away with it in a person-to-person environment.
Watch your mouth.
The only time you pissed me off was the very first time I flamed the hell out of you. That also seems to be the time you started "harrassing" me.reallyfreakinlost said:And you think I'm obsessed with you? I bring you up all the time because I love to piss you off, maybe you piss me off in return but this is the beauty of the internet.
You really think you pissed me off when you said I should jump off a bridge? Man, that gave me high blood pressure, I got a stroke this morning.Ace of Flames said:The only time you pissed me off was the very first time I flamed the hell out of you. That also seems to be the time you started "harrassing" me.
Now, I think its fun. I see you posted on a thread I posted in, and I think "Oh god, let's see what kinda crap he's come up with this time." We may not agree on much of anything, but hey, we'd be boring if we were the same.
Bring it on, arch-nemesis!![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hahaha, your whole attitude changes when I tell you that you don't piss me off. Classic.reallyfreakinlost said:You really think you pissed me off when you said I should jump off a bridge? Man, that gave me high blood pressure, I got a stroke this morning.
By the way, I called you arch-nemesis because some idiot thought I was talking to him, so I referred to you carelessly as my arch-nemesis. sorry to burst your bubble but you're not that important to me, you're just somebody I like to refute on a regular, daily basis.have a nice day
And you can tell my attitude when I type a smiley face? believe me, I am laughing my ass off after I read each word you type. your writing is PURE GOLDAce of Flames said:Hahaha, your whole attitude changes when I tell you that you don't piss me off. Classic.
And vice-versa for you.reallyfreakinlost said:And you can tell my attitude when I type a smiley face? believe me, I am laughing my ass off after I read each word you type. your writing is PURE GOLD
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.