"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Help! I'm seeing IOIs... everywhere!

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I'll admit - I was once a total dunce when it came to reading female body language.

So I've been reading some material to enhance my game. Something I read about "indicators of interest". These are things - conscious and subconscious - that women do when in the company of a guy they're interested in.

Some of these include -

- Stroking/twirling her hair
- Scratching her wrist
- Playing with her jewelry/necklace/earring
- Caressing her neck/chest
- Licking her lips
- Sitting with her legs crossed and pointed towards you


And now that I am consciously on the alert for these signs of interest from girls... I am seeing them everywhere! While talking to sales girls, girls at bars and clubs, girls at the office. And all I do is look them in the eye.

It's flattering to think that women think you're attractive. The id in me thinks that it may be it's the timber of my voice. Maybe I'm just a handsome dude. Maybe it's the intensity of my glare. The neurotic side of me thinks that these mean nothing, they're just doing it out of habit.

Question for the guys - how often do you notice IOIs? Are they genuine? Are women consciously aware that they do these things? Do they only do it when they're attracted to a guy, or out of habit?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Body language doesnt lie.. But the rule of thumb is look for multible iois.. for instance..
maybe shes adjusting her jewelry because it is in a uncomftorable position..
or maybe shes licking her lips because they feel dry..

but if shes playing with her jewelry .. while licking her lips and pointing her body into you then shes probably interested..

the one ioi i think doesnt need a cluster "actually thats why psychologists call it body language clusters" is twirling the hair.. if shes looking you dead in your face while twirling her hair she wants you.. bad..

but all things considered.. its a good attitude to assume all females find you attractive..
so flatter yourself

your really hot!
goodluck
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-cola
 

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cola said:
the one ioi i think doesnt need a cluster "actually thats why psychologists call it body language clusters" is twirling the hair.. if shes looking you dead in your face while twirling her hair she wants you.. bad..
I've known several women that play with their hair as a nervous tick. There's no such thing as a "magic sign" -- other than maybe her grabbing your equipment.
 

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#41 said:
I've known several women that play with their hair as a nervous tick. There's no such thing as a "magic sign" -- other than maybe her grabbing your equipment.
Why would someone be nervous around you (excluding anxiety ritten people) if they weren't attracted to you? When you are in the vicinity of someone you find attractive your adrenaline starts pumping and fight or flight kicks in.. (why people have trouble approaaching very hot girls.. ) and also the source of the "butterflies in stomach" feeling.. and also.. here we go.. NERVOUSNESS .. and body language isn't magic but it is a great indicator.. subconsciouslly people judge you immediately when they lay eyes on you by yor posture.. way you walk.. how you hold your head etc.. you should research it fascinating
 
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