Help! I'm paranoid and care way too much about what others are thinking about me!

[Viper]

I'm very paranoid and care way too much about what other people think. For instance, there was this long ass wrestling invitational today and I was constantly paranoid about what others thought of me. I was paranoid of what the other teams thought about me, I was paranoid about what the crowd thought about me, I was even paranoid about what my own team members thought about me. I'm constantly thinking about, "He/She/A group of people" are thinking/saying about me, I get paranoid that if I look at them, they'll think I'm staring at them, if I do something wrong, they'll think bad things about me. I try to stop this mindset by thinking, "But dude, what does it matter what they think?" but even after that, I still feel very paranoid. For instance, I'm paranoid that everyone in the stands and on the other team that sees me thinks, "This guy is a loser, he doesn't even wrestle", because it's my first year and I'm still learning, I try to convince myself, "Well, of course dude, your still learning dude, I mean, honestly, do you think you would be able to do anything on the map currently?" and then I think, "When I learn enough to enter the ring, I'll show these people.", that's just how damn paranoid I am. Whenever I meet new people, I assume they're thinking something bad about me, especially if they give me looks. Something else that might also explain this is the fact that I think in a 3rd person view, I have no idea why, but that's just how I think, like, I always think as if there was another person there, listening to my thoughts.

 

[penkitten]

call your family dr and make an appointment, seriously.
conditions like this may require medications and going to counseling.

my brothers last gf was the best of everything except that she had major ocd and whatever the condition is where she thinks other people disapprove of her and can even hear her thoughts.
she broke things off with him when she suddenly thought he could hear her thoughts and he had no idea what the heck was going on.
perhaps she didnt tell him everything to begin with, because she thought he already knew.

 

[B-Lemond]

http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip365.htm



This will get your confidence up.

 

[AC/DC]

I AM WAITING FOR MY PHONE CALL.

Put your life in your hands, be a ****in man, step up, PM me. I will help you.

Quit bull****ting yourself and quit putting yourself in a position to fail.

 

[DJ4Real]

Seriously....if you need help, just throw a pm. You keep embarassing yourself on here.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by penkitten
call your family dr and make an appointment, seriously.
conditions like this may require medications and going to counseling.

my brothers last gf was the best of everything except that she had major ocd and whatever the condition is where she thinks other people disapprove of her and can even hear her thoughts.
she broke things off with him when she suddenly thought he could hear her thoughts and he had no idea what the heck was going on.
perhaps she didnt tell him everything to begin with, because she thought he already knew.

I appreciate your advice. Honestly viper, you need a professional. Obviously no one on here is expert at all of these although people have great advice. Stop posting and get serious help.

 

[MightyMate]

You can visit some therapist.

 

[Viper]

I don't know think is bad enough for a medical term, If I was THAT paranoid, I probably wouldn't even leave my house.

 

[Quagmire911]

Try reading this,

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16903

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Viper
I don't know think is bad enough for a medical term, If I was THAT paranoid, I probably wouldn't even leave my house.

this is very much how something can start. you dont just wake up with all the symtoms to things, they gradually come out in most cases.

please go get it checked out while you are capable of it.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by penkitten
this is very much how something can start. you dont just wake up with all the symtoms to things, they gradually come out in most cases.

please go get it checked out while you are capable of it.

Maybe, but I wouldn't think so, It's been like this for a couple years and really hasn't gotten worse, nor weared off, just stayed the same. I'll read the 'Be a Man!' topic, but I don't know how much it will help, I have the tendancy to read things, but then when I go back out into the field, I start getting like that again and try to remember the stuff I read on Sosuave, but in the end, I just feel insecure again.

 

[sinner]

I used to be paranoid, i still am a bit paranoid at times.... not much as you though. Do you spend too much time alone ?? If you do stop that, stop being alone too long. Force yourself to go out and do things out of your comfort zone, go out and experience different situations. Start learning new things (eg:learn an instrument, learn to drive), hangout with your friends more often, start working out, get a job etc. Even small things like these will help in reducing your paranoia. You can start by giving AC/DC a phone call.. i'm sure thats out of your comfort zone. hopefully my advice helps you....

 

[American_Psycho]

Social Anxiety Disorder

 

[B-Lemond]

Read the whole section on Jerk vs. Nice Guy in the DJ Bible.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by sinner
I used to be paranoid, i still am a bit paranoid at times.... not much as you though. Do you spend too much time alone ?? If you do stop that, stop being alone too long. Force yourself to go out and do things out of your comfort zone, go out and experience different situations. Start learning new things (eg:learn an instrument, learn to drive), hangout with your friends more often, start working out, get a job etc. Even small things like these will help in reducing your paranoia. You can start by giving AC/DC a phone call.. i'm sure thats out of your comfort zone. hopefully my advice helps you....

Well, I don't think I'm alone a lot, I concert band, go to school and do wrestling, but yes, a lot of times when I'm there I don't really talk to other people because I'm afraid they won't accept me.

 

[Quagmire911]

Originally posted by Viper
a lot of times when I'm there I don't really talk to other people because I'm afraid they won't accept me.

If you are paranoid about others thinking things of you then you are thinking about all the bad things that could go wrong when you talk to them. Many of these things are exaggerated and are most definetly unlikley to happen. Try to have a positive outlook on approaching people, think of the good things that could happen. If you do approach and things dont go the way you had hope, MOVE ON, because there are plenty of other people to approach and form relationships with, just try and not to worry about things so much and relax. If you dont approach then you will never know how things will have turned out, to quote the infamous pook
"Rejection is better than regret".

Quagmire

 

[B-Lemond]

Viper:

What do you want to achieve?

What do you need to do to achieve this goal?

What have you done so far to reach your goal?

 

[sjchris]

I seriously think this kid is just joking around and he bursts out laughing when he hits the "new topic" button. I think I read a new one of these every other day lol. I mean seriously I've gone to many wrestling matches and I never once thought that anyone was laughing at me because I was watching instead of wrestling thats just ridiculous.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by sjchris
I seriously think this kid is just joking around and he bursts out laughing when he hits the "new topic" button. I think I read a new one of these every other day lol. I mean seriously I've gone to many wrestling matches and I never once thought that anyone was laughing at me because I was watching instead of wrestling thats just ridiculous.

WOW, DID YOU EVER THINK THAT EVERYONE'S NOT LIKE YOU AS*HOLE? God, what an ignoramous.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by Viper
WOW, DID YOU EVER THINK THAT EVERYONE'S NOT LIKE YOU AS*HOLE? God, what an ignoramous.

Maybe THIS is why people don't like you.