"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Help! I'm a dancing monkey!

wanderlust420

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Hi all, I've come to the harsh realization that when I go out, I am all fun/"woo" and no intent.

Last night I was at a bar and was dancing with the off-duty waitresses which was a lot of fun, but in the end left with nothing. No #s, nada.

I need quick help. Any words of advice or kicks in the ass are very much welcomed.

From what I can gather, my issues are incorporating hot eye contact and intent into my usual fun/"woo!" game.

Anyone that can relate???

:woo: :(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dragon

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I can also relate. What Noob said is right. I would also add to that:
- start touching a lot (huggung, kissing on cheek, etc)
- add some ****iness: (i.e. "If you want to keep dancing with me, you have to buy me a drink")
 

wanderlust420

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I should also add in the issue with isolation - the venue was a small area in front of the bar, the lights had been turned on, and the group was a bunch of co-workers.

I know this shouldn't make a huge difference, and it sounds like I'm just making excuses - but I feel things would have been better in a dark, open club, for example.

...but I'm still a wussy for not getting any digits, especially after at one point, one of the waitresses was bending me over and slapping my ass...(!)

I need a piano dropped on my head.
 
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