"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help, I only have one dance class left, and so many pretty ladies...

doubledown11

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So I'm trying not to sound like a complete perv, that's not what it's all about.

I've got one more latin dancing class. What is great about this class is I stand there and dance with several different girls every class, they keep rotating.

It's great, other than the inability to speak and dance at the same time. :-/

Anyway, I've only got one more class. I haven't gotten any numbers... (I've always been bad at this)

What should I do? It would be kind of screwed up for me to ask every girl I dance with for her number, and it would also be clumsy to track down the different girls in the hallway, in speedy skeezy fashion and get as many numbers as I can.

I need some advice here. I know I need help with positive thinking and expectation first, but I've only got one class left, and I'd like to get to know at least one of these girls.

Thanks.

(First post!)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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iqqi

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Here's what you do, Slick.

Announce to the class that you are throwing a latin Valentine's Day party at some club that's hot, with a few friends. Get everyone's #!

Then later you can call all the ones that you are interested in, tell them its cancelled, but you still would love to see them.

;)
 

j0n024

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...wow a Valentines day party .....at a club...hahahahahahahahahaha.Wow that sounds so pathetic ohhh sh1t you just made me laugh so much iqqi hahahahahah. Ohh fvck that was funny.

The problem I see with that whole "Party" (Not on Valentines) is that I think most girls would rather see you at the party then give you their number at the dance, I think you should dance with a couple of women...get a number while dancing and when you dance with another girl ask her on a day date maybe after class and then get the number, go to a diff girl get the number and then go to another girl and ask her out tonight.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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iqqi said:
Here's what you do, Slick.

Announce to the class that you are throwing a latin Valentine's Day party at some club that's hot, with a few friends. Get everyone's #!

Then later you can call all the ones that you are interested in, tell them its cancelled, but you still would love to see them.

;)
Thats not a bad idea.

I would just go up to the selected girls you like. Tell them this is your last day here and you would like to get together with them. If they agree ask for their number and go from there.
 

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Honestly? You've left it too late, doubledown. And even if you hadn't, you're not going to get all their numbers anyway. Women talk - and the women at the dance class will talk to each other. If they find out you've been getting all of their numbers, then none of them will date you. Why should they? You're clearly a 'player', and they won't feel special.

Here's what you do: get ONE of their numbers on the last day. Pick your favourite, tell her that you want to stay in touch, and get her number. Tell her you'd like to meet up sometime, and is she free next Friday evening?

Good luck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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