"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help, I only have one dance class left, and so many pretty ladies...

doubledown11

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So I'm trying not to sound like a complete perv, that's not what it's all about.

I've got one more latin dancing class. What is great about this class is I stand there and dance with several different girls every class, they keep rotating.

It's great, other than the inability to speak and dance at the same time. :-/

Anyway, I've only got one more class. I haven't gotten any numbers... (I've always been bad at this)

What should I do? It would be kind of screwed up for me to ask every girl I dance with for her number, and it would also be clumsy to track down the different girls in the hallway, in speedy skeezy fashion and get as many numbers as I can.

I need some advice here. I know I need help with positive thinking and expectation first, but I've only got one class left, and I'd like to get to know at least one of these girls.

Thanks.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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iqqi

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Here's what you do, Slick.

Announce to the class that you are throwing a latin Valentine's Day party at some club that's hot, with a few friends. Get everyone's #!

Then later you can call all the ones that you are interested in, tell them its cancelled, but you still would love to see them.

;)
 

j0n024

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...wow a Valentines day party .....at a club...hahahahahahahahahaha.Wow that sounds so pathetic ohhh sh1t you just made me laugh so much iqqi hahahahahah. Ohh fvck that was funny.

The problem I see with that whole "Party" (Not on Valentines) is that I think most girls would rather see you at the party then give you their number at the dance, I think you should dance with a couple of women...get a number while dancing and when you dance with another girl ask her on a day date maybe after class and then get the number, go to a diff girl get the number and then go to another girl and ask her out tonight.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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iqqi said:
Here's what you do, Slick.

Announce to the class that you are throwing a latin Valentine's Day party at some club that's hot, with a few friends. Get everyone's #!

Then later you can call all the ones that you are interested in, tell them its cancelled, but you still would love to see them.

;)
Thats not a bad idea.

I would just go up to the selected girls you like. Tell them this is your last day here and you would like to get together with them. If they agree ask for their number and go from there.
 

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Honestly? You've left it too late, doubledown. And even if you hadn't, you're not going to get all their numbers anyway. Women talk - and the women at the dance class will talk to each other. If they find out you've been getting all of their numbers, then none of them will date you. Why should they? You're clearly a 'player', and they won't feel special.

Here's what you do: get ONE of their numbers on the last day. Pick your favourite, tell her that you want to stay in touch, and get her number. Tell her you'd like to meet up sometime, and is she free next Friday evening?

Good luck.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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