"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Okay heres the story. This is lengthy, but Im totally confused here.

I met this girl online through mutual freinds. I saw her at a club exactly 2 weeks ago on the 27th.

I talked to her and just chatted with her abotu her outfit and her hair. I remembered to hold eye contact and I played with her hair. I got a smile.

She left the club and came back. I was sittign with my freinds and in she walks. There jaws drop and I said "oh yeah shes mine?." One of myf reinds was a nay sayer and started talkign poo. So I called her name rooom across the room and told her to come here. Aksed if she liked my sweater. She said "Its soft!" Stroked it, played with my hair, smiled, turned around ina super girly fashion and walked off. I did not chase her and actualyl said Hi to this other girl across the room.

So I e-mailed her online and told her I found out something about her thats interesting. This peaked her interest and she eventually relinqushed her phone number without me asking.

She spins records in this all girl DJ crew and told me to come up to this mall where she was playing at. I met her there and I bsuted on her and held eye contact.

At one point I looked her dead in her big blue eyes, she put her finger on her lip, looked down and away and twisted her foot.

I told her I was leaving and she gave me a big hug and I said "I'll call you." She says, "I dont have your number." I said, "No..Ill call YOU."



She messaged me and told her she didnt have a way to get a hold of me. So I busted on her and said "You're all about trying to get my number, arent you?" and didnt give it to her.

She messaged me the next day and asked if I was working. (I was)

So I told her me and my boys play pool every monday. I messaged her my number and she messaged me back on my phoen saying "Now I can block it." I said "You're loss not mine." and she replied with "Whatever!"

She messaged me on my phone with an interesting mesage abotu how she "has no one to cuddle with int he thunderstorms and feels depressed during them." I busted on her and said "Are you inviting me over to cuddle?" She responds with " You wish!"

She made sure I didnt forget about pool on Monday and met me on Monday. It was great, i busted on her all night. She kept bumping into the pool table with her cue and I told her that "that pool table didnt do anythign to you, leave it alone." She had no idea how to play and I stopped helping her just to be an ass.

She had to leave I walked her out and she said "I had ALOT of fun!." and got a BIG hug.

She messaged me the next day on my phone wanting to know if I was off. I had to work. But we kept messaging back and forth. Told her I was off wednesday. No messages...no calls.

I caleld her the next day and said "I had alot fo fun on Monday hanging out with you. I knwo my shcedules kind of busy but I would like to hang out wiht you again real soon. I know something real fun we can do on Saturday."

She called once, I didnt answer and she left no voicemail. She called again later and asked what I had mind. Told her it was a surprise. She was willinf to adjust her schedule to hang out.

Today...talked to her online and asked her if she had to work saturday. She said "Well, just call me."

Then she messages me on my phone later with "Do you think you can hire a hitman for yourself?" I busted on her and got no response.

No heres where Im at a loss.

Should I have kissed her on the monday we played pool? I regret not doing so.

And whats with all the high intrest and then "Well just call me." But messaging me later? She must have been thinking about me.

We dont message back and forth anymore and only talk, once every other day and I make it a point to keep it short.

Have I waited to long and missed my window of oppurtunity? This girls awesome. And I will run into her alot in the future since we have such mutual freinds. She was really interested and now, im not sure or maybe she is just testing me and playing games

Help me fellas.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bonhomme

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Have a plan

She got frustrated and blew you off becuase you didn't have a plan.

Also, everything implies you were the one trying to win her over. Not good.

You gotta have a plan. It need not be something marvelous, but it's gotta be s=something.

Best thing you can do is move on and leave it up to her to call you back.
 

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She got disgusted waiting around for you to act.
 

mars_needs_women

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So blow her off, dont call her and see where it goes from there.

What if I wait a week and then call? Or, see her in the future, should I act disinterested or still give a little C&F?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bonhomme

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Yup

You gotta strike while the iron is hot.
 
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