"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Help getting over/ get me back with the ex

SoSuaveDude

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Not being harsh, but i have to agree with loveshogun.

She was your ex, and unfortunately, you tried to re-establish an already stale relationship with her, but you only tossed the control back into her hands. She clearly denied you another relationship, and you seem to just ponder and wait like a dog until she decides when/if shes ready. :crackup:

Truth is: I doubt she ever will be...

You should learn to LISTEN and take advice unless you wish to get burned again. I guess the best way to fully learn a lesson is through repetition right lol!? Its only a matter of time until you hear about some new guy in her arsenal. Don't forget to update us when the news drops :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SoSuaveDude

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odawg said:
I came on here looking for some help to get her back.

I know I am happier when I am with her so I think that means quite alot..
Lmao you're way to dependent on this girl. GO spin plates Fast and build some genuine inner self-esteem! :flowers:
 

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"Look Dad I fixed the Ferrari after I crashed it!"

"That's great son, how'd you do it?"

"Oh, I just used some duct tape and bailing wire. See? Good as new."
 

odawg

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Age 42 + still on a dating website = someone who has it all together...cough
 

loveshogun

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odawg said:
Age 42 + still on a dating website = someone who has it all together...cough
Teenager + asking advice on an online forum and then not listening + crawling back to his ex = you

Pump the brakes, kid. Rollo gives some of the best advice on this board. It would behoove you to listen to him.

Remember - you're the one having the lady trouble. Don't ask for advice and then get mad when people tell you to open your eyes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jariel

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Oh wait, your situation is different to everyone elses and your ex is hotter than anyone elses, so you should do the exact opposite of what worked for everyone else.

She's clearly still crazy about you, so withdraw all the money you have and go buy her a ring and some other jewellery. Every time she goes cold, give her a present, then ask if she needs any housework or favours doing. If she tells you she doesn't want to be with you, then give her the ring and propose to her.

Of course, she will say yes because she's still crazy about you and this whole break up stuff was just because she's so in love she is scared of getting hurt.

So go and fight for her!!

(I'm assuming that's what you came to this forum to read, so there you go)
 

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well just to let everyone know that we got back together today. I know I may not have been Don Juan about it, but I did have a lot going for me particulary in the looks section so that is always a help.

I think it does show that if something is worth fighting for then go for it. However, tactics should be used where appropriate and you should try and keep your options open whilst still single as using other girls as pawns is half the battle to getting her interest back.
 

loveshogun

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odawg said:
well just to let everyone know that we got back together today. I know I may not have been Don Juan about it, but I did have a lot going for me particulary in the looks section so that is always a help.

I think it does show that if something is worth fighting for then go for it. However, tactics should be used where appropriate and you should try and keep your options open whilst still single as using other girls as pawns is half the battle to getting her interest back.
Good luck, kid. We'll see you soon.
 

odawg

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lol... probably! at least I was warned :)
 

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Don't worry, guys. Some people learn best from experience.

Stay positive, op!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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