"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SoSuaveDude

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Not being harsh, but i have to agree with loveshogun.

She was your ex, and unfortunately, you tried to re-establish an already stale relationship with her, but you only tossed the control back into her hands. She clearly denied you another relationship, and you seem to just ponder and wait like a dog until she decides when/if shes ready. :crackup:

Truth is: I doubt she ever will be...

You should learn to LISTEN and take advice unless you wish to get burned again. I guess the best way to fully learn a lesson is through repetition right lol!? Its only a matter of time until you hear about some new guy in her arsenal. Don't forget to update us when the news drops :crackup:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SoSuaveDude

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odawg said:
I came on here looking for some help to get her back.

I know I am happier when I am with her so I think that means quite alot..
Lmao you're way to dependent on this girl. GO spin plates Fast and build some genuine inner self-esteem! :flowers:
 

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"Look Dad I fixed the Ferrari after I crashed it!"

"That's great son, how'd you do it?"

"Oh, I just used some duct tape and bailing wire. See? Good as new."
 

odawg

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Age 42 + still on a dating website = someone who has it all together...cough
 

loveshogun

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odawg said:
Age 42 + still on a dating website = someone who has it all together...cough
Teenager + asking advice on an online forum and then not listening + crawling back to his ex = you

Pump the brakes, kid. Rollo gives some of the best advice on this board. It would behoove you to listen to him.

Remember - you're the one having the lady trouble. Don't ask for advice and then get mad when people tell you to open your eyes.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel

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Oh wait, your situation is different to everyone elses and your ex is hotter than anyone elses, so you should do the exact opposite of what worked for everyone else.

She's clearly still crazy about you, so withdraw all the money you have and go buy her a ring and some other jewellery. Every time she goes cold, give her a present, then ask if she needs any housework or favours doing. If she tells you she doesn't want to be with you, then give her the ring and propose to her.

Of course, she will say yes because she's still crazy about you and this whole break up stuff was just because she's so in love she is scared of getting hurt.

So go and fight for her!!

(I'm assuming that's what you came to this forum to read, so there you go)
 

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well just to let everyone know that we got back together today. I know I may not have been Don Juan about it, but I did have a lot going for me particulary in the looks section so that is always a help.

I think it does show that if something is worth fighting for then go for it. However, tactics should be used where appropriate and you should try and keep your options open whilst still single as using other girls as pawns is half the battle to getting her interest back.
 

loveshogun

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odawg said:
well just to let everyone know that we got back together today. I know I may not have been Don Juan about it, but I did have a lot going for me particulary in the looks section so that is always a help.

I think it does show that if something is worth fighting for then go for it. However, tactics should be used where appropriate and you should try and keep your options open whilst still single as using other girls as pawns is half the battle to getting her interest back.
Good luck, kid. We'll see you soon.
 

odawg

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lol... probably! at least I was warned :)
 

JustLurk

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Don't worry, guys. Some people learn best from experience.

Stay positive, op!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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