help getting out of oneitis.

[garruk]

so im ashamed to say this but ive got oneitis.

this girl ive been dating went away for a month and it pretty much threw my game off. im great at keeping distance and balancing my life when i see the girl in person, but wit hthe distance i found myself constantly texting and talking to her on the phone.

now her interest level is falling off a little (texting/calling me less often) which is fine BUT:

the other night i went out with my boys and i realized: fvck, i got oneitis. all i could think about was this girl, even as other girls were all around me. last night, i called an old plate to hang out and get some drinks but i couldnt pull the trigger and escalate becuase i had no desire to do so. ive already cut contact with the oneitis (she gets back this weekend) but im still in trouble.


can anyone give me some pointers? im doing all the motions but i cant make the move.

 

[loveshogun]

Sometimes you gotta have faith in yourself.

If you're doing the things you love to do in life, it helps to remind yourself that there was a time when you were happy before you met this girl. Just cause she's out of your life is no reason to give up on future happiness. Women are only a small part of the equation.

Keep up with your boys, and your hobbies. If it strikes you and the opportunities arise to go out with other women, go ahead. Just remember that it's YOU that will keep you happy, not someone else.

It might take some time, but it'll go away.

 

[5string]

1) Complete NC. Absolute radio silence.

2) Go out with other women.

 

[garruk]

Sometimes you gotta have faith in yourself.

If you're doing the things you love to do in life, it helps to remind yourself that there was a time when you were happy before you met this girl. Just cause she's out of your life is no reason to give up on future happiness. Women are only a small part of the equation.

Keep up with your boys, and your hobbies. If it strikes you and the opportunities arise to go out with other women, go ahead. Just remember that it's YOU that will keep you happy, not someone else.

It might take some time, but it'll go away.

yeah you're totally right but it's hard becuase I know she's coming back soon. in retrospect I feel kinda like I got played becuase she's spending the next week with me before she moves to her new apartment. I agreed to this before she left and I feel like she knew this would keep her in my head or something.

agh anywyas, I'm going to try my best doing as you said.