help: first date advice

[garish]

hello folks,

just wondering what i should do with this girl i just recently met on our first date? i'v heard movie is not a good idea, due to lacking of communication. someone said just take her to a coffee shop for a cup of coffee. i don't know...i mean let's say we've set up a date that i pick her up at 7pm, and then all i do is take her to a coffee shop for a cup of coffee? isn't that a little cheap...

anyway, i just need some good ideas on what i should do with the girl on our first date. any input is highly appreciated!

garish

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I think people have given you fair advice on that matter. What makes or breaks the date is YOU, whether you can get her to want you, make her laugh, getting her to think romantically or sexually about you, not how much you are spending on her on a date. Besides, if the date were to c&b, you know you didn't spend too much money on her.

Let HER prove she is worth it to you to spend money on. If the date goes really well, there is chemistry, then you can always spend more money on a future date later on when you are getting what you want.

Another thing is to pretend you are a busy man. Try to spend as least amount of time (ie. try going for a half hour - hour) to lessen the chance of saying something offensive, and when things are really going great, cut the date and say you have an errand to do, but will see her again soon.

I only go on movie dates with women I'm not attracted to romantically or sexually - I call them 'movie buddies'. I have at least one if not two of them and they are both UG's. I'd never take a HB or someone I'm attracted to on such a date, because I find, that a long movie drains mental energies and you want her to focus on you not the movie. Your charisma, your charm, your personality, (which is really your skills you are learning here).
A movie doesn't say much about your personality other than your tastes.

The movie and dinner dates are the most clicheed date concepts and doesn't make you look original, and I dont think are impressive to someone you really want to charm. Furthermore, you may set a precedent to her in her mind that you are a 'movie buddy' - and she may just think of you as such, because I know I do for some women in my life.

However, on another note, you could engage in cuddling in a theatre while watching a movie - but again it's risky, you are risking a bit of money that you are going to set a 'cuddling' while viewing a movie. You put your arm around your date while viewing a movie, play with her hair, massage her back - practise kino-touch, try tease touching, etc.... So, if you do go on a movie-date, make it worthwhile by trying that out.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

yea, i personally think movies are good for first dates..

for one thing, it eliminates you fvcking it up for 2 hours, and after the movie, if all else fails, you can talk about the movie!!!

ultimately, its on you man.. don't go and spend $100 on a first date..a movie and some starbucks is fine, and thats about $25 at most..

 

[skip2mylou781]

if u wanna get laid, u better isolate her

if u wanna get to kno her, take her to play pool

 

[Ace of Flames]

When someone mentions "the coffee date", I always think of an hour or half hour date, during the day, like at 4pm or something. Its not a DATE, its a MEETING. The only point of the coffee date is to have a small convo to see if you are interested in each other. You make a few jokes, show her your personality, and she makes that decision in her head to either keep seeing you or not. Then you go about your day, and call her up for a real date in a few days.