Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
Is there a free E-book or did everybody buy it? I really don't feel like buying the book because frankly I don't need it that much, I just want to see what it has in it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Karma have you read it ? Just curious because i have that book but i dont know if it worth reading it .KarmaSutra said:PM me your email address.
I've read it. It's good. I'm a speed-reader though, and have read a bunch of crap too.Daddy The Pimp said:Karma have you read it ? Just curious because i have that book but i dont know if it worth reading it .
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No, I'm having a great day! I played an awesome gig last night with my band and got the phone number of an incredible woman. She called me today and we had a great conversation.Bonafide said:Uh...Sun Tzu, having a bad day?
By the way, contrary to what you say, you do need the book, because it talks about the fact that a man pays for what he owns, lives an honest life, and does not steal from others.Bonafide said:Is there a free E-book or did everybody buy it? I really don't feel like buying the book because frankly I don't need it that much, I just want to see what it has in it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sun Tzu said:By the way, contrary to what you say, you do need the book, because it talks about the fact that a man pays for what he owns, lives an honest life, and does not steal from others.
SS, thanks for the support.SilverSonnet said:Bonafide...Firstly, there's no need to be harsh about this, and Sun Tzu IS trying to help you here, and also makes a valid point, I dont mind sending you the book, but take Sun's point to heart.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Being a man has nothing to do with piracy, but being in complete control over yourself and thus having no ego. I understand people from your generation feel the need to feel righteous about certain things, but the newer generation grew up with information right at their finger tips. There are hundreds of bittorrent, newsgroup, filesharing sites that don't promote piracy but promotes sharing. Now, the problem with sharing today is the widespread accessibility of the internet. A complete stranger can "lend" you a book, without ever speaking to you. But the whole point to it is the "give a penny take a penny" motto. Now somewhere along the line, someone did indeed buy the product, but he shared it with his friend, who in turn shared it with his friend. The biggest problem is the duplication of a product, which in the end hurts the sellers. The people that have morals, however, should treat it as if they're just trying before buying. In the end it all depends on what you're willing to sacrifice for knowledge. I know I may not be making sense to you now, but hopefully someday you will understand.Sun Tzu said:You see, my original comments cannot be interpreted accurately by wondering if I'm in a bad mood. That is an incredibly simplistic thought process on your part which protects you from examining yourself and your motives. That is precisely why you don't have enough self-respect to pay for your possessions like a man. You cannot understand that the very mechanism that drives you to steal income from another man is the same mechanism that prevents you from handling your relationships with yourself and with women. Again, you are currently incapable of understanding this right now. I write it in the hope of planting a seed that will eventually mean something to you as you learn and start to understand yourself. Just some tough love, brother. You will recognize it as such someday.
And I'm sure you've never run a red light, smoked a joint, "forgot" to put change in the meter and promised not to cvm in her mouth.Sun Tzu said:LOL, you are so severely under-armed for a battle of wits with me that I can't possibly bloody you up in such a battle. It would be a massacre.
I will say this, though: In America we value rule-of-law. Copyright laws exist to protect authors from theft. If you had the wherewithal to publish a written work, you most certainly would avail yourself of the law in order to protect your investment.
What is your line of work? If you were a salesman, would you appreciate it if I moved in on your territory and "borrowed" some of your customers? If you owned a hardware store, would you be offended if I needed a circular saw and just walked in and took one?
The law recognizes what you are trying to defend as "theft". "The people who have morals" (your phrase) respect the law and refrain from making up silly principals to justify their desire to acquire knowledge and possessions without paying for them.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.