Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
Is there a free E-book or did everybody buy it? I really don't feel like buying the book because frankly I don't need it that much, I just want to see what it has in it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Karma have you read it ? Just curious because i have that book but i dont know if it worth reading it .KarmaSutra said:PM me your email address.
I've read it. It's good. I'm a speed-reader though, and have read a bunch of crap too.Daddy The Pimp said:Karma have you read it ? Just curious because i have that book but i dont know if it worth reading it .
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No, I'm having a great day! I played an awesome gig last night with my band and got the phone number of an incredible woman. She called me today and we had a great conversation.Bonafide said:Uh...Sun Tzu, having a bad day?
By the way, contrary to what you say, you do need the book, because it talks about the fact that a man pays for what he owns, lives an honest life, and does not steal from others.Bonafide said:Is there a free E-book or did everybody buy it? I really don't feel like buying the book because frankly I don't need it that much, I just want to see what it has in it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Sun Tzu said:By the way, contrary to what you say, you do need the book, because it talks about the fact that a man pays for what he owns, lives an honest life, and does not steal from others.
SS, thanks for the support.SilverSonnet said:Bonafide...Firstly, there's no need to be harsh about this, and Sun Tzu IS trying to help you here, and also makes a valid point, I dont mind sending you the book, but take Sun's point to heart.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Being a man has nothing to do with piracy, but being in complete control over yourself and thus having no ego. I understand people from your generation feel the need to feel righteous about certain things, but the newer generation grew up with information right at their finger tips. There are hundreds of bittorrent, newsgroup, filesharing sites that don't promote piracy but promotes sharing. Now, the problem with sharing today is the widespread accessibility of the internet. A complete stranger can "lend" you a book, without ever speaking to you. But the whole point to it is the "give a penny take a penny" motto. Now somewhere along the line, someone did indeed buy the product, but he shared it with his friend, who in turn shared it with his friend. The biggest problem is the duplication of a product, which in the end hurts the sellers. The people that have morals, however, should treat it as if they're just trying before buying. In the end it all depends on what you're willing to sacrifice for knowledge. I know I may not be making sense to you now, but hopefully someday you will understand.Sun Tzu said:You see, my original comments cannot be interpreted accurately by wondering if I'm in a bad mood. That is an incredibly simplistic thought process on your part which protects you from examining yourself and your motives. That is precisely why you don't have enough self-respect to pay for your possessions like a man. You cannot understand that the very mechanism that drives you to steal income from another man is the same mechanism that prevents you from handling your relationships with yourself and with women. Again, you are currently incapable of understanding this right now. I write it in the hope of planting a seed that will eventually mean something to you as you learn and start to understand yourself. Just some tough love, brother. You will recognize it as such someday.
And I'm sure you've never run a red light, smoked a joint, "forgot" to put change in the meter and promised not to cvm in her mouth.Sun Tzu said:LOL, you are so severely under-armed for a battle of wits with me that I can't possibly bloody you up in such a battle. It would be a massacre.
I will say this, though: In America we value rule-of-law. Copyright laws exist to protect authors from theft. If you had the wherewithal to publish a written work, you most certainly would avail yourself of the law in order to protect your investment.
What is your line of work? If you were a salesman, would you appreciate it if I moved in on your territory and "borrowed" some of your customers? If you owned a hardware store, would you be offended if I needed a circular saw and just walked in and took one?
The law recognizes what you are trying to defend as "theft". "The people who have morals" (your phrase) respect the law and refrain from making up silly principals to justify their desire to acquire knowledge and possessions without paying for them.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.