You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, don't forget the latter.Originally posted by 516
If its a fairly nice day as far as the weather, then try doing something outside for a bit. Most cities or towns have at least some romantic outdoors area where you 2 can hang out for a little while. Take a nice walk somewhere pretty or romantic, or if there is a big flower garden or canal, boardwalk, or some sort of park or trail or something that you can walk that would be nice. Also try doing something that is personalized and not so cookie-cutter. And then romantic dinner somehwere or if you maybe can cook for her and set up something romantic at your house or something. And of course hitting it at the end of the night.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by SheDevil
-back yard bon fire, make love under the stars.
-fire place (or candles), lots of pillows, music, your arms, kisses...
-Tell her you are taking her to your favorite restuarant, order pizza, wine, feed her in bed, naked. Then let her taste you for dessert.
-Show up at her classroom at last bell, tell 'the teacher' what a naughty boy you have been and ....um, you take it from here.
-Have a coworker slip a card on her desk, in it have a hotel key and write that you are waiting and all you have instore.
-Send her 11 roses, tell her she will have to work for the 12th.
Gifts from your heart and imagination are so much better then the store bought stuff.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.