"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help! Awkward situation: Job interview in my Ex's company!! What should I do?

Lotus Effect

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Hey guys.

This is a quick one.

I have a job interview in about an hour at the same company that one of my exes work.

She is financial assistant over there, so I might not run into her. But if I do? What to do!?

Backstory: Dated for about 6 months. Then I got bored and droped from the face of earth. Haven't called her for her birthday about a month after breaking up. She txted me mad. I said some BS story, probably hurt her feelings, and then she blocked me of facebook.
Just to add, due to this interview, I've realised that she have unblocked me!

Thanks guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Riggs

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Just keep it professional; be nice and polite, no need to be weird about it.

And..
She is worth f*cking again!
... really? Think about it for a sec.

Just my two cents
 

Atom Smasher

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I have to say, OP, she holds a lot of power right now. She can essentially spread any kind of rumor she wants to about you if she's holding a grudge.

The best you can do is to move full-steam ahead, get the job if you can get it, and hit whatever she pitches to you. Stay calm, professional, and be dismissive of any comments she makes or of any comment a new coworker might make after hearing the rumor.

With your demeanor you can indicate that the girl is "troubled" and making up stories. You don't say that outright, but imply it in a nice way, almost as if you feel sorry for her having to make up stories. You're above getting involved with the rumors. It will show in your demeanor and because you are taking the high road she will look bad eventually.
 

Yorkex

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Perfect time to show the new you. Walk in confidence , talk in confidence and you are good.

The fact that you knew she works there but had the balls to show up for the interview is already a plus ...you can mess it up or hit a home run by being confident & going after what you want.

If you bump into her , a quick hello and keep moving.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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