"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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HELP: "As friends" pulled setting up second date

supCALI

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Just texted this girl who I had a first date with Thursday (see thread)

Me:Hey [name], hope you made that test your b!tch! I had a great time with you Thursday - you're very pleasant to talk to. Are you free for dinner tomorrow evening?
Girl: Sure I like talking to you too as friends that'd be really cool :)

God damn it. She sent it 15 minutes ago, 3 minutes after my text and I have yet to reply. I didn't escalate as much as I should have on my first date but I certainly didn't expect her to pull the "Let's just be friends" card just yet.

Can I say anything to turn this around?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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supCALI said:
Just texted this girl who I had a first date with Thursday (see thread)

Me:Hey [name], hope you made that test your b!tch! I had a great time with you Thursday - you're very pleasant to talk to. Are you free for dinner tomorrow evening?
Girl: Sure I like talking to you too as friends that'd be really cool :)

God damn it. She sent it 15 minutes ago, 3 minutes after my text and I have yet to reply. I didn't escalate as much as I should have on my first date but I certainly didn't expect her to pull the "Let's just be friends" card just yet.

Can I say anything to turn this around?

I read your other thread and what you said to her here in your text and honestly man.....you don't seem aggressive enough.


You kiss her on the cheek
You ask her permission to walk her to her door

and the "hope you made that test your b!tch!" remark...(oh geeez)....that sounded like something a gay guy would say.

You're not coming off as STRONG,MASCULINE,as TAKE-CHARGE.

Her "as friends" comment seems to suggest she's attempting to change your "date" into "friends hanging out",which of course,YOU'LL LIKELY BE paying for.


So if she wants the 2nd date to be "as friends",you might wanna go back and do an autopsy on the first date to see where and WHAT mistakes you made.


Far as how to turn this situation around,hey....YOU KNOW once you get friendzoned,there's no going back. Guess you can go out and try to be more aggressive on the date,but if she reinterates that she just wants to go out as friends,not much else you can really do.


If it were me,I'd probably cancel the date. I'd tell her that I'm looking for a bit more than "just friends",and since we're looking for two different things,it'd probably be best just to go on our separate ways.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys.

Yes, I finked it up by not being aggressive enough on the first date. I ended up texting her an hour and a half ago asking if 7:30 works and she hasn't replied but hey, I set the precedent by not replying for 4 and a half hours. If she replies that yes, it works for her I'm going to say "cool, come pick me up at my house, the address is [address], call me if you need directions".

If we're going to be "talking as friends" then she shouldn't mind picking me up right? It forces her to invest a little bit more. And if she agrees to pick me up and shows up, would it hurt to kiss her right at my door? I figure she'll do one of two things. She'll either leave in a huff or love it and continue on the date where I'll be applying LOTS of kino, having her beg for more. And if the date continues, you best believe I'll transform myself into a Dutchman when the bill comes and only pay my half of the dinner.
 
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