"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Confused guy

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Hi ive been going out with this gal for over 4 months...been going great so far till last week when we went for the movies....after that we stopped by a coffee shop and we went ahead n talked about exclusivity......

She said she wants to be friends and etc and she cant afford me going round telling people that she is sure about what we have/had coz she really isnt( i haven't done this...been pretty discreet as we have common friends in college).

I told her I just wanted us to know each other first and that I would not see anyone else (she had subtly indicated this fear to me earlier) until we figure out what the heck is going on. We also agreed that we have enjoyed our time together so far and nothing should change..she said she needed time to "think" about this and that

we used to either IM or talk on the phone quite often earlier but since we disussed the topic, the convos lack substance.......Before she or I would initiate the calls/IMs now for the past 2 days, it seems that I am the one who is initiating she does reply to my TXTS/emails...she does take my calls but no substance to the chatter.....how ca i save the situation ?? am i over analyzing?? or should i say NEXT??

wwhats happening here guys?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Personally, I think you should put it out there: tell her if there's nothing happening between you two, you're leaving.

If she likes you, she'll come crawling. If she doesn't, move on.
 

Confused guy

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Thanx....i already told her that and she said she isnt sure and that she needs time to think about it......
 

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Move on. nothing will be gained. She likes the attention but feels guilty about leading you on. Her compromise is to tell you that she "needs time" move out to other girls while she thinks about it.
 

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There is nothing to save. She is trying to keep you from getting hurt, thus she tells you that she needs time.

Move on dude.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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