"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Confused guy

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Hi ive been going out with this gal for over 4 months...been going great so far till last week when we went for the movies....after that we stopped by a coffee shop and we went ahead n talked about exclusivity......

She said she wants to be friends and etc and she cant afford me going round telling people that she is sure about what we have/had coz she really isnt( i haven't done this...been pretty discreet as we have common friends in college).

I told her I just wanted us to know each other first and that I would not see anyone else (she had subtly indicated this fear to me earlier) until we figure out what the heck is going on. We also agreed that we have enjoyed our time together so far and nothing should change..she said she needed time to "think" about this and that

we used to either IM or talk on the phone quite often earlier but since we disussed the topic, the convos lack substance.......Before she or I would initiate the calls/IMs now for the past 2 days, it seems that I am the one who is initiating she does reply to my TXTS/emails...she does take my calls but no substance to the chatter.....how ca i save the situation ?? am i over analyzing?? or should i say NEXT??

wwhats happening here guys?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Personally, I think you should put it out there: tell her if there's nothing happening between you two, you're leaving.

If she likes you, she'll come crawling. If she doesn't, move on.
 

Confused guy

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Thanx....i already told her that and she said she isnt sure and that she needs time to think about it......
 

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Move on. nothing will be gained. She likes the attention but feels guilty about leading you on. Her compromise is to tell you that she "needs time" move out to other girls while she thinks about it.
 

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There is nothing to save. She is trying to keep you from getting hurt, thus she tells you that she needs time.

Move on dude.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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