"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this is a q for you guys.

so last week, i was taking this swing dancing class and there's this really cute girl i've been flirting a lot with. anyhow at the end of class, i asked her what she was doing on the weekend. she said she had plans. however, i felt like i could push it. so i told her we should get coffee tommorrow. she looked uncertain. so i continued to flirt with her for about 8 more mins. then i said again... lets get coffee tommorrow at 3:00? she laughs and says "fine, lets do it"

then about 15 mins later, i'm heading to class when i realize that 3:30 I have a ****in mandatory lecture. so i call her back immediately telling her i had a class i forgot and could we switch times. she never called back.

today, in swing class she didn't show up.

so i'm thinking one of two possiblities. 1) she doesn't dig me. or 2) she's angry cuz she thinks i played her.

so should i call her back sometime this week. or should i wait till next swing class. the other thing is next swing class is the last class i'm registered for, and i know she will continue to go for a few more weeks. the big problem is i can't go to swing after next week either.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How is this a situation for the 'real' Don Juans?

Please read the DJ Bible.
 
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