"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Help? A Don Juan who needs more balance?

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What's up,

I'm in a situation where I feel like I messed up with this girl who was really good to me. I've been dating her for 6 months but I've known her longer than that....She has cooked for me...bought me little things...an overall good girl..something I'm not used to experiencing.....but to make a long story short...About a month or so ago...We had a situation...where I felt she disrepected me but she really didn't....I felt she was being rude by not immediatly thanking me for a gift I sent to her house..She thanked me several days later....Instead of addresing then, I overeacted and never called her again...She has been blowing me up ever since....and texting me but I havn't called her back....I'm just learning these principles and I was being extra hard core....Now, I feel dumb....What can I do to ressurect this dumb mess with her without looking like a goofball?
Thanks....
PS. I was thinking about calling her back...telling her I have a little something for her for Christmas and hooking up.....What do you think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stéphane

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You did everything perfect, she's begging for your attention. (Depends how long this been going on...) Anyways your not in the wrong here, just tell her that you were really busy with life, and stuff, and just didn't have the time to talk to her.
 

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Go and apologize. If you know you did wrong, and poorly assessed the situation, go and contact her, and let her know.
If she doesn't resopect you for being a Man, then she's not worth it anyway.

Go and be a man.
Don't get her the gift though.
Make sure you give her the gift of your sincereity, and the honor you have inside.
If she loves you, she will appreciate YOU more than any gift.
You know what to do.

In the future, LEARN not to REACT.
Learn to keep your emotions in check.
 

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where I felt she disrepected me but she really didn't

Stéphane said:
You did everything perfect, she's begging for your attention. (Depends how long this been going on...) Anyways your not in the wrong here, just tell her that you were really busy with life, and stuff, and just didn't have the time to talk to her.

WTF?????!

Dude..........

Where's krazyboy? someone tell him he's got to see this.





PS Note to self, do not go in the main forum anymore, Interceptor. Agreed?

(sigh) Agreed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stéphane

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Interceptor said:
WTF?????!

Dude..........

Where's krazyboy? someone tell him he's got to see this.





PS Note to self, do not go in the main forum anymore, Interceptor. Agreed?

(sigh) Agreed.
So your saying that he should apologise, and give her all the power? That he should be begging to get her back? Sorry, It's easier if the pvssy comes begging to you, instead of having you beg for pvssy. She's already begging for his attention, she keeps calling him.

Why the f*** should he apologise, and give her all the power?
 

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krazyboy99 said:
this is a prime example of what happens when you let all the sh1t you read on this site get to your head. if you were wrong and you apologize, that's not giving away any power. that's just being a decent human being.
Well, been a decent human being won't get you the girl. There tons of decent human beings we call them "nice guys", "doormats", "AFCs". There all decent human beings but do they get laid? Hell no.

You can try apologising, but people just don't take appologies good, just like compliments. She will either forgive him or she won't, he doesn't need to appologise for it.

Another option he could do is to be brutally honest with her. Just tell her the truth, and that it was a big misunderstanding, but donot appologize. You did absolutely nothing wrong, it was a misunderstanding at the most.
 

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Dude, just tell her the truth. Who cares if some guy on an online forum says it makes you an "AFC?"

You've got to be honest in any healthy relationship...if you ****ed up, then it's alright to apologize.
 
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