"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Okay I'm going to tell ya right off the bat this is probably going to be a little lengthy but I really need some insight on this one boys so help me out!

I've known this girl, K, for well over a year now. We've been friendly for that amount of time and just about 3 months ago started hooking up sporatically. She is a HB 9 but she also has one of the coolest personalities I've ever seen in a girl.

On average I would say we hook up about once every other week. Maybe a little more than that. Now I'm not the easiest guy to open up to girls but I feel like its about time that I tell her how I feel. I definately like this girl a lot and rather than trying to just wait until she says something to me I feel like I should just suck it up and say something.

One of the reasons I want to do this is also because she hooks up with this other guy sometimes also. I want it to be known to her that I want it to just be me and her and no other interferences.

Now this past weekend we made it back to my room and did our thing and afterwards she was saying how I was the sweetest guy she's ever met and blah blah blah...to make a long story short I don't think I reacted how I should have (or how she wanted me to). I should've said how I feel no? I said something along the lines of how I always have fun hanging out with her and that was about it.

Now that goes back to my point before, I don't open up easily. So about 2 days after that night, my friends and I take a road trip while my roomate's GF and her friends (K included) slept in our house. Now by the time I get back (like 8 AM) I'm whiped out and so I'm just sitting on the couch next to her and like passing out (they were up for some reason). She gave me no cuddle action and very minimal touching. When they were leaving she just said good bye to everyoen and didn't specifically come to me (mean anything or over analyzing?). Later in the day they all came BACK because 1 of them forgot something and they were all going out for dinner so they figured they would stop by. So she waves and says hi, and while they were leaving she just said bye to everyoen again. Nothing directed towards me specifically.. Once again...mean something? or over analyzing?

I mean to just go from a night that we had (it was a great night, finally got her to touch my c*ck) with her saying how sweet I am etc etc to be followed up by that just sounds a little weird...

As I said before it is very hard for me to open up to someone and I really want to tell her how I feel when I see her this weekend. --> I figure that if she comes back to my place 1 night I'm just going to tell her. - But since I've been thinking of that morning I've been doubting doing it more and more.

What do you guys think should I do this or what? And if not what should/could I do?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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toddC said:
I definately like this girl a lot and rather than trying to just wait until she says something to me I feel like I should just suck it up and say something.
This would be your first mistake. The reason why she likes you is because your not falling all over her and putting her on a pedastool. Right now, you are doing everything PERFECT. Your being a great DJ

toddC said:
One of the reasons I want to do this is also because she hooks up with this other guy sometimes also. I want it to be known to her that I want it to just be me and her and no other interferences.
This is the second and most important reason why you shouldn't let your feelings out of the bag. If you do, she'll see you as the CHUMP of the two guys she's nailing and she'll run off with him and you'll be left alone, holding your pecker dreaming of her while he's banging her and singing this song

Seriously man, your right on track. From the Bible

ANTI DUMP said:
Becoming exclusive with a woman means the both of you talk about not dating or seeing anyone else. The dating with others comes to an end.
Never ask a women to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must talk about it FIRST.
Why? If a woman hasn't asked you yet it means she is still open to seeing others. She still has DOUBTS about you. Highly interested women don't want you going out with other women.

A woman asking for exclusivity is like a 'marriage proposal'. She is cementing and laying the foundation for true intimacy.
She wants something that's lasting. It is the ULTIMATE test of interest, guys. She is 'proposing'.

If you ask first, you will never know her true interest level. Why didn't she bring it up? How come she is still letting you see others? Why isn't she CLOSING her options? Is she seeing someone else?

Think about it.

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This one's pretty simple, actually. Don't say anything.

Instead of the random hookups, get her out and go have some fun together, like a real date. Nothing fancy, nothing cheesy... just go do something together and see if she warms up. After a bit, it'll be pretty clear on wether or not she's into the exclusive thing. Instead of seing each other every couple weeks, start upping it to twice a week or more.

Don't tell her anything about how you feel. Just show her a rockin good time, more often and she's yours.

And if she just likes the random encounters, then you'll know it by how much she flakes on you, and how soon.... and you just have to turn and walk away and maintain your dignity. Never tell her anything about how you feel until you know for sure she's feelin' the same way.
 

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MacAvoy said:
This would be your first mistake. The reason why she likes you is because your not falling all over her and putting her on a pedastool. Right now, you are doing everything PERFECT. Your being a great DJ



This is the second and most important reason why you shouldn't let your feelings out of the bag. If you do, she'll see you as the CHUMP of the two guys she's nailing and she'll run off with him and you'll be left alone, holding your pecker dreaming of her while he's banging her and singing this song

Seriously man, your right on track. From the Bible

Perfect break down. :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So pretty much you guys are saying to rather than tell her how i feel about her and how I want our relationship to be taken to the next level, I should just show it by asking her out to dinner or to come by and watch a movie? That kinda thing?
 

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What were are saying is don't spew your feelings to her. When you are with her, just show her a great time. Yes we are also saying to ask her out instead of just randomly hooking up.
 

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Don't make your feelings known. And don't tell your friends about how you feel cuz they'll tell the girl and she'll be uncomfortable talking to you.
 

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She might acted like this (didn't say something specifically to you) because she didn't like the way you got back home! I mean girls don't like boys fainting next to them!! She might even didn't want to reveal the thing is going between you and her for her reasons! I would say rather than trying to f*ck her try to be more romantic with her! Since you really like this girl you don't have to see her like something to f*ck! Call her out buy her a flower! Spend some money for her (not to much cause you'll end up being a toy) just act romantic for a while! You don't need someone else to involve to this, friends of yours or hers! :)
 
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