"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey, everyone! I'm delurking after having read a number of the archived threads and finding them to my liking.

As for background information, I'm 18 years old and TREMENDOUSLY EXCITED to be going off to school in under a week - I'm finally free of the constraints of high school dating, and I think I'm going to take to the real world just fine. Over the last year or so, I've really come out of my shell - I lost 80 pounds, took up wrestling and judo, and really sharpened my social skills.

So that's me in a nutshell... If you like, tell me something about yourselves. See you round the board!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I like men. Er...I mean...damn let that slip.

haha jp.

Welcome to the board. I'm from NY. I lost 42 lbs. I took up tennis and kick ass at it. I am a big music buff. I don't really like men. And currently, my old oneitis is maybe trying to mess with my head. But I'm not gonna think much about it.

Have a nice life.
 

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Hi! My name is Michael. I'm a reformed AFC.

I just got my first date today and i'm just about to go. I'm pretty nervous.

I'm from Manila, Philippines. I recently gained 45 lbs from 118lbs to 165 maintaining 11% b/f in 16 months. Cleared my skin and ready to practice & sharpen my social skills. I'll see you around. :)
 

Ken785

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Welcome bro. i love bein here. i go here like 5 times everyday!! These guys are great and so are their stories!
 

Taio

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Pleased to meet you, gentlemen! I don't know if I'll be a heavy poster, but I'll be sure to do field reports and share any ideas I have.

By the way, does Pook still post around here? He seems to have a big following. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So pimp its scary

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Pook does occasionally come out from the shadows, but regardless, there are more then just them that have something worth listening to.

Do yourself a favor to prevent flaming, and ask all the 'newbie' questions in this thread... ;)

Basically I went from a completely and utterly shy computer nerd... to now, basically two years later and people hardly recognize me from before just with the way I carry myself, I am still not an 'expert pua' or whatever the ƒuck you wanna call it... but I at least can 'pull' my own weight.
 

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Taio, I want to congratulate you on losing 80 pounds. That's an awesome achievement, and that has got to give you a massive confidence boost. When you get down just think of how far you've already come.

It's good that you're excited. It'll get you motivated to read some more of this stuff.

While you're excited and motivated, get out there and meet some people.

Oh, and read most of the stuff in the bible a few times. I know it takes time to read the bible just once, but it doesn't fully sink in unless you go through it again and again.
 

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I've been through the bible a bunch of times, so I'm probably not going to get flamed. Thanks for the warm welcomes, though. :)
 

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Hey man, welcome!

At the moment, i'm trying to gain the weight! Only 140lbs right now but its getting better. I've started drumming again and I enjoy jiu-jitsu and boxing. I am also looking forward to college, which starts in a month!

Cyas around!
 

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Welcome Taio.

Not a heavy poster myself but I often read posts. Will not say much about me 'cause I'm in the middle of some huge reforming. Don't know how I will end up...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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