"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm Matt, and I'm 16. A friend referred me here.

I'm just so lonely. I've got no one. I don't have a girlfriend. I just want a female companion. A girlfriend. I don't care about sex, or any of that stuff. I just want a girl to love me, and let me love her. I'm so lonely. I've got nobody. I've got some emotional problems, but I'm a nice guy. I really do have love to give.

Please help me.

I look like crap. I'm freaking ugly. It's my teeth. They're yellow, because of stupid medicines I was on as a kid.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hi Matt. Welcome to the Forum.

Looks like you have some self esteem issues at the moment. Why dont you take the first step to work on your image, if you look good, you will feel good, and if you feel good, you become more approachable. What would you say your best features are, highlight those a bit more.

At 16, you must still be at school, why not participate in someextra-curricular activities and try meeting girls from there. Maybe you are looking for a friend at this stage rather than a girlfriend.
 

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WhenTheRadiatorBurst said:
I look like crap. I'm freaking ugly. It's my teeth. They're yellow, because of stupid medicines I was on as a kid.
Cinamon is right, you have a very low self esteem. and at your age you should not worry things about love and a girlfriend, what you need to do, is put your attention at school, family and i think what more important is spend time with your friends with same age with you. Dont bother to much on how to be loved by an opposite sex. not a good idea. :yes:

Anyway welcome to the board!
 

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Welcome to the forum.
You sound like you have self issues, which can use some help and might be that your looking more for a friend than a GF.
GFs won't fix you lonely issues. Go seek a cool friend or if you want someone to talk emotional issues with or try a female friend which you feel absolutely NO attraction to.
Remember: Friend-chicks are no GFs. If you make a girl your normal friend she will never be able to become your GF anymore.
Keep those things separate in life saves you a lotta drama.

A doctor or dentist can tell you how to fix yellow teeth.
 

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These should be your friends...A good part time job to stack $$, and if you are outta shape a good gym to get toned up. The $$ will keep your appperance up like hair cuts, new clothes, shoes, take yourself out and befriends with yourself first. You cant love no one if you dont love yourself first. Forget about girls right now you have to get intuned with yourself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey, Cinamon.

Thanks. You seem like a nice dude.

Best features ... hmm ... I don't think my hair is that bad, and then there's always ... down there. :crackup:

Yeah. I'm in eleventh grade. I'm not athletic, so that rules out sports, and that's really the only extra-curricular school activities, except for FBLA, which isn't really my thing, and FFA, which I'm a member of but don't really participate in.

I have a job at a grocery store. There's a couple of pretty hot girls there, but I think they're all spoken for.

The female friend thing ... I've tried that. Doesn't work too well. I always fall for them. :(

And I'm totally not as big a puss as I sound like. ;)
 
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joedmango:

Thanks. :up:

Yeah, I've got pretty low self-esteem I guess.

I suck at school. Not really my thing. I've got a considerable amount of family issues. I have a few male accquanitences from school, but they're always busy and never want to hang out.
 
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She_feelin_Me:

I have a job. With tips, I make okay money.

I'm in average shape, I guess. No gyms in the area, and I typically don't feel like taking the time to exercise.

I do need some new clothing and shoes.

Good advice, man. Thanks. :up:
 

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Welcome to the forum.

You seem to be a case of low self-esteem. I understand, the case of never having a girlfriend or a female in one's life and they end up the butt of virgin and gay jokes.

Why not join some clubs, hit the gym, go to school dances, stuff like that?

When was the last time you visited your dentist?

Do you meet women on the job? And where do you go to meet women?

You can also treat yourself to a movie or something like that. And if you get invited to parties at all, at your age you should go.

BTW, since you have a job, why not ask a female friend (or a female) to go shopping with you to get some trendy clothes?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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