Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Purple-Haze

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Hello everyone!

I was kindly directed to this site by a poster on LS. I was curious to see where this sudden onslaught of "particular" views was coming from. My curiousity got the best of me.

I'm a female poster from LS. I'm really quite interested to read the threads on this forum to gain a better understanding of the PUA/scorned man mentality. I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right forum...I'm sure I'll be corrected if I am.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that some of you did have some very interesting points. I've only recently been catching up with all of the chaos.

For those of you who came on as strongly as you did... What were you thinking? It's like a feminist coming on here with guns blazing. You wouldn't be receptive to that, would you? So why would you expect those on LS to not react to some of your obviously angry posts.

And FYI, not all women suck. Really.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Welcome. Yeah not all women suck as bad as others. So far from what I've noticed you have a better attitude than most of the women that came over here from LS.
 

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Welcome. Yeah not all women suck as bad as others. So far from what I've noticed you have a better attitude than most of the women that came over here from LS.
Well I can't blame them. Some of your members are a bit abrasive. You can't win people over with generalizations and rage that comes from dark corners.

If they took the time to go through LS and the various forums, they would've seen that many on there provide balanced advice. That's the beauty of LS. You get people with a wide range of experiences and perspectives. Does this mean I agree with all of them? Nope. But it always adds to my understanding of a problem. Even the negative ones...

But thanks for the welcome. I look forward to reading the threads and getting to know the DJ mentality. I feel like a pro already.
 

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Yeah, we actually had some points to share when we went over there.


Anyways, welcome.

Btw, you're not the person I asked if their vagina tasted like pumpkin pie, are you? Cause that was a joke!
 

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Yeah, we actually had some points to share when we went over there.


Anyways, welcome.

Btw, you're not the person I asked if their vagina tasted like pumpkin pie, are you? Cause that was a joke!
It's always in the delivery, isn't it?

So you asked someone if her vagina tasted like pumpkin pie, huh? I take it she didn't respond kindly to that. And no, I'm am not that poster.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well she started going on about how guys are missing out if they only have sex with 18-19 year olds instead of older women like Demi Moore, Susan Surandon, etc.

I said "your vagina might taste like pumpkin pie but if I look at you and can't get hard..." well you know the rest.

I made some excellent points about how there are more women that look like hanna montana then there are who look like Julianne Moore.

She was tearing down a whole age group of women, and I make ONE comment about the taste of her clam and WHOAH!! She becomes the dragon lady!


That stupid C**T!! I'll eat her bones!
 

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Well she started going on about how guys are missing out if they only have sex with 18-19 year olds instead of older women like Demi Moore, Susan Surandon, etc.

I said "your vagina might taste like pumpkin pie but if I look at you and can't get hard..." well you know the rest.

I made some excellent points about how there are more women that look like hanna montana then there are who look like Julianne Moore.

She was tearing down a whole age group of women, and I make ONE comment about the taste of her clam and WHOAH!! She becomes the dragon lady!


That stupid C**T!! I'll eat her bones!
Well you offended her. You can't get your point across when the listener thinks you're insulting them (even if that was not your intention).

I personally think older women are beautiful in their own right. Obviously you have women who are unattractive in all age ranges...but generally speaking, there is something about a woman who has given birth and is confident with herself and knows what she wants...

Anyway, I hope you guys stick around LS. Hopefully you'll see what a great resource it can be.
 

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I admit when I went to LS there was advice that women gave that I completely agreed with.

I made the mistake of thinking I can be as crass with a girl as I could with a guy on an internet site. Not a good move. My post wasn't just a plain insult, however. I had very good points! (you want an example of this style, Look up LastManStanding on Sosuave)


So another question: If she thinks I insulted her personally (which is what I wasn't going for), should that be MY problem? I mean I did apologize, but she wanted my post completely deleted like it never happened!

And that Is the ultimate difference between this site and LS. We might not like what you have to say, but we'll actually step out of ourselves and LISTEN!

It did happen and I DID talk about vagina and pumpkin pie!! IT was real, DAMMIT! IT WAS REAL TO ME!!



*runs up to his room crying ala "Full House" style*



Edit: And I agree with you. I personally find an older more mature woman very sexy. I love a straight forward attitude at times.

But...come on. A 19 year old. Soft skin. Tight body. Whoo boy.
 

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ThunderMaverick said:
I admit when I went to LS there was advice that women gave that I completely agreed with.

I made the mistake of thinking I can be as crass with a girl as I could with a guy on an internet site. Not a good move. My post wasn't just a plain insult, however. I had very good points!


So another question: If she thinks I insulted her personally (which is what I wasn't going for), should that be MY problem? I mean I did apologize, but she wanted my post completely deleted like it never happened!

And that Is the ultimate difference between this site and LS. We might not like what you have to say, but we'll actually step out of ourselves and LISTEN!

It did happen and I DID talk about vagina and pumpkin pie!! IT was real, DAMMIT! IT WAS REAL TO ME!!

*runs up to his room crying ala "Full House" style*
LS works differently. It is highly moderated and you can get infractions for going off topic, insulting posters, etc. Some don't like it and others are OK with it. It is what it is.

If you apologized to her then there is not much more you can do, is there?

But you have to understand that by making such a flippant remark you totally took the value of whatever insights you may've had and threw it away.
 

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I don't agree. It's not my responsibility how she takes the message.

I would say the same thing to certain OTHER female members on this board and they'd laugh about it or it would roll off them like water on duck feathers.

As I said I would be less upset if I went there to flame, but I didn't. It's not my fault she only looked at one part of the message. She CHOSE to look at that only part and rile herself up like that.

Silly silly woman.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hey Purple-Haze and hello everyone.

I hope you don't mind my jumping in to say hello to everyone on your thread, Purple-Haze.

Another fellow LS member here. Like some of them here, I am curious and can't wait to read up on SS.
 

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TruthSeeker said:
Hey Purple-Haze and hello everyone.

I hope you don't mind my jumping in to say hello to everyone on your thread, Purple-Haze.

Another fellow LS member here. Like some of them here, I am curious and can't wait to read up on SS.
Well hello there. This will be interesting, won't it?
 

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TruthSeeker said:
Hey Purple-Haze and hello everyone.

I hope you don't mind my jumping in to say hello to everyone on your thread, Purple-Haze.

Another fellow LS member here. Like some of them here, I am curious and can't wait to read up on SS.

Are YOU the one who's vagina I talked about?!? HUH!?! ARE YOU!!???


Anyways...welcome.:cheer:
 

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I don't agree. It's not my responsibility how she takes the message.

I would say the same thing to certain OTHER female members on this board and they'd laugh about it or it would roll off them like water on duck feathers.

As I said I would be less upset if I went there to flame, but I didn't. It's not my fault she only looked at one part of the message. She CHOSE to look at that only part and rile herself up like that.

Silly silly woman.
Who said anything about responsibility? It's not like you were being interviewed for a job. But you were treading on new territory. You should've played nice.

But anyway, that's moot now. I don't even know if that thread exists. Many of the female posters on are super balanced, cool women. It's too bad you didn't get the chance to see that.

It's never too late though...
 

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What? They don't have the multi-quote function??

Purple-Haze, yes it will be. I can't wait.

Thunder, no. I am not the one. But trust me, I don't smell like one!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Purple-Haze said:
Who said anything about responsibility? It's not like you were being interviewed for a job. But you were treading on new territory. You should've played nice.

But anyway, that's moot now. I don't even know if that thread exists. Many of the female posters on are super balanced, cool women. It's too bad you didn't get the chance to see that.

It's never too late though...

Piff. Apparently it is too late. I was banned!!
 

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Thunder, no. I am not the one. But trust me, I don't smell like one!

I would have no problem whatsoever if you smelled like pumpkin pie.
 

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Purple-Haze said:
Hello everyone!

I was kindly directed to this site by a poster on LS. I was curious to see where this sudden onslaught of "particular" views was coming from. My curiousity got the best of me.

I'm a female poster from LS. I'm really quite interested to read the threads on this forum to gain a better understanding of the PUA/scorned man mentality. I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right forum...I'm sure I'll be corrected if I am.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that some of you did have some very interesting points. I've only recently been catching up with all of the chaos.

For those of you who came on as strongly as you did... What were you thinking? It's like a feminist coming on here with guns blazing. You wouldn't be receptive to that, would you? So why would you expect those on LS to not react to some of your obviously angry posts.

And FYI, not all women suck. Really.
Welcome to Taco Bell. Care to try a burrito supreme?
 

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Welcome to Taco Bell. Care to try a burrito supreme?
The chicken burrito supreme is my favourite. I love their fries supreme as well. Now I'm hungry...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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