Heavy makeouts with a girl at a party all night, then she backs away...

[Ckowalsky]

Hi guys, just wanted to share my experience last night meeting a beautiful blonde girl at a bar with our friends, then we bounced to a house party. I did very well in kino escalation and she was vibing with me on it. We were keeping it discreet and unspoken but both knew that it was on.
When we got to our friends' place and after a few drinks, her and I started making out around the house at different places, and she was loving it. No sex, logitics and time did not work for us there. Our whole night was like this. Sporadic make outs in secret places.
We were also secretly bantering with each other on facebook. Then I messaged her to to go someplace and that i would like to take her when she is ready, and that if its not, its cool.
Eventually, DURING our last make out, she said something along the lines of me thinking shes too easy or that she thinks I think she is 'one of those girls', and then backs away completely.
By the end of the night she wanted to be taken home since she also works early.
Was there anything I could have possibly done to avoid this trigger from her to back away?
Advice? Suggestions? Criticisms please? I appreciate the feedback. Still new to the game.

 

[btownbuck2012]

When you get last minute resistence, i.e. "You just think I'm a sl*t", you're well on your way to getting laid as long as you don't act affected by her saying that. You just have to feed her some bull**** line about how she's special. For example, a few women I've brought back to my place for a one night stand situation, usually the hotter ones, will stop me midway during make out and MOST of our clothes already off and say something like "Are you just playing around with me?"

The trick here is making them think they're special. My go to line is "Why would I bring you back to MY place if I didn't like you and wasn't serious about you? Why would I have you in my home?" Notice how I'm talking to her as if I'm super valuable and only give attention to women who are deserving of it? i.e. I brought you back to my home you must be special. Women eat that crap up.

In your situation, logistics could have very well been the issue. I don't have much experience banging women in a party setting at someone's else house, so maybe someone else can chime in here on last minute resistence in that situation.But again, anytime women say stuff like that don't think it's because you're f*cking up. Most will do this as they don't want to feel bad about banging some guy they just met.

It's like in sales when someone starts trying to get you to lower your price. They're interested and want to buy but want to feel like they have a say in what's going on too.

 

[The Duke]

Who knows....anti-slut defense kicked in, her ex texted her and she wanted to end up in his bed that night, her friends didn't approve of you.

 

[bigneil]

This is common nowadays. Don't worry, last year 5 dream girls did this to me before one dream girl fell in love with me.

 

[Ckowalsky]

Thanks for the input, guys. Anyway, here is our whole conversation thru messenger (attached screenshot).
Was I too pushy/needy here?

 

[Ckowalsky]

Transcript of messenger messages:

Her: hi dummy
Me: hey dummy
(couple hours later after make outs)
Me: lets go someplace
Her: huh
Me: what I said.
Me: If not tonight, next time. I would like to take you, but only if youre ready. If not, its cool.
(No response from her, but we were both there in person)

 

[CodeOfAtlas]

lets go someplace

Terrible. Replace "someplace" with an actual place; she doesn't want to figure that out.

Her: huh

This is the end of the conversation, you didn't spark her imagination.

 

[wifehunter]

She wants you to chase her.

 

[Dingo]

She sobered up...

 

[bigneil]

Transcript of messenger messages:

Her: hi dummy
Me: hey dummy
(couple hours later after make outs)
Me: lets go someplace
Her: huh
Me: what I said.
Me: If not tonight, next time. I would like to take you, but only if youre ready. If not, its cool.
(No response from her, but we were both there in person)

Wait, you thought you could ask her out 10 minutes after getting her phone number??

 

[nismo-4]

Maybe she

1. Sobered up
2. Got a text from her ex
3. Is demoting you to friendzone or orbiter status
4. Just wants attention and validation from you.
5. Has friends that voted no on you.

Sorry it happened. Is she really that attractive? I think not.

 

[marmel75]

You shouldn't have messaged her that, you should have told her that in person...made you look scared to do it face to face...big turnoff

 

[Billtx49]

Me: If not tonight, next time. I would like to take you, but only if youre ready. If not, its cool.

You put the power in her hands with that statement. Told her it's fine to reject your date offer also. Be decisive and direct. Have a plan in place about where to take her before texting and tell her, not ask her if it's ok. You came across as wishy washy and weak willed to her.
i.e., not the type of man she's looking for…
She might have thought you were at the party, but she doesn't now after that example of weak text game. Some improvement needed there…

 

[Julian]

Had this exact thing happen. Met this azn sloot through some latina sloots i know. well I paid her zero attention besides quick introduction.

hour later i was on the dancefloor and she started bouncing her ass on me which led to a very intense and very sexually charged night. basically we were all over eachother, basically fukking on the dancefloor, i picked her up and was deep grinding into her like jamaican daggering type chit going on lol.

anyway she gave me the girlfriend treatment, i gave her the boyfriend treatment all night and we were making out i was suckking her titties in the bar, people thought a porn was being filmed, it was wild as fuk. well after that night she made some vain attempts to get me to chase her and I dont play that chit i went ghost on her ass aside from courtesy txts back since shes still in a part of my social circle.

theres no fkin way im chasing these b1tches period. yes her and I had a good connection and all that but her trying to play the game, i dont do that. either your with it or your not its that simple. the best chicks i had were down for me from the getgo because they realized the value i offered and they liked what i was about. our auras connected.

other times a chick thinks she needs to lead the chase and treat me like some kind of orbiter until i "win" her over. yeah bish i dont mind hitting you up to make plans and get things going...but dont pull that last minute no show chit or not texting back in good time to solidify plans. thats childish and if i wouldnt tolerate it from a client, a friend, or even a family member then theres no fukking way ill accept that from some b1tch and thats just the facts, jack.