"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Heavy flirting one day, but dry the next. Does she want me to make a move?

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I have known this HB 8 from school for a few months and we see eachother a few times a week. We have started hanging out more often within the last month. She has many guy friends, but I always act as a confident alpha,and never act like an AFC around her.

Some days we flirt heavily online and sometimes it even leads up to blatant comeons that she wants to sleep with me.(this has happend a few times). However, the following day its as if she has no interest whatsoever. Some days she also initiates heavy kino, but I try to appear as if I don't care. She also appears very interested about what other women I am involved with and even makes teases and says that I should F**K them.

With her sporadic attention, is she waiting for me with the to make a move, or is she just using me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Simplest answer is usually right. YES! She wants you to f**k her but wants you to make the first move. Acting like you don't care is good but if you do it too much she WILL actually think you don't care! Be smooth and the next time there's heavy kino keep escalating it.
 
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You've probably already missed your chance to close on her. There probably was a time (the first time) that you could have slept with her, but now if you tried to kiss her you'd probably get a suprised look and a "omg i was just JOKING!"

next time, get your balls together and strike while the iron is hot.
 
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Oh I can almost guarantee you that she sees you as one of her guy friends and not as a "confident alpha" lover.

Hanging out several times a week + no sex = guy friend
 
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You should've made a move on her to determine whether she is an attention ho or not, it's your loss now and all you have to do now is masturbate.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bettis76 said:
I have known this HB 8 from school for a few months and we see eachother a few times a week. We have started hanging out more often within the last month. She has many guy friends, but I always act as a confident alpha,and never act like an AFC around her.

Some days we flirt heavily online and sometimes it even leads up to blatant comeons that she wants to sleep with me.(this has happend a few times). However, the following day its as if she has no interest whatsoever. Some days she also initiates heavy kino, but I try to appear as if I don't care. She also appears very interested about what other women I am involved with and even makes teases and says that I should F**K them.

With her sporadic attention, is she waiting for me with the to make a move, or is she just using me?
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this is how i act around woman lol. She is seducing you man, and its working
 
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In every action you take with a women, try and do things because you want to not because some guy on here says "you did not kiss on the first date, she does nto like you anymore", Now if you already had that feeling of you should have kissed her and did not. Just do it next time when you feel it again.

DO NOT FORCE ANYTHING, it will look and feel weird.
 
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How do I get the power back on my side? What do you mean that she is seducing me?
 
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I think I may be dealing with a potential AW here. Here close friends are very good people, but they are all HB6-7s. She also said in the past that she can't stand hanging out around girls, and likes hanging out around guys more.
 
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I never understood how someone could act "alpha". you are either secure with yourself or you aren't. Being alpha doesn't necessarly mean always one-upping the next guy or going out of your way to make sure you get noticed, but just being yourself, being true to your wants, needs and values in the presense of other men.

Anyway, very very simple. Next time you see her, make a serious move, and expect her to return it likewise. If she doesn't, give her a confused look and say "well, with all the hints you were giving me online, this is what you wanted right?" If she says anything other than you are right, **** it and move on. You've already dug yourself in a hole by being indesivive for too long, but if she is still giving you hints, maybe there is hope.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You sound like you are borderline friends zone. You'll have to work at keeping things sexually interesting without being overly flamboyant.
 
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