Heavy flirting one day, but dry the next. Does she want me to make a move?

[Bettis76]

I have known this HB 8 from school for a few months and we see eachother a few times a week. We have started hanging out more often within the last month. She has many guy friends, but I always act as a confident alpha,and never act like an AFC around her.

Some days we flirt heavily online and sometimes it even leads up to blatant comeons that she wants to sleep with me.(this has happend a few times). However, the following day its as if she has no interest whatsoever. Some days she also initiates heavy kino, but I try to appear as if I don't care. She also appears very interested about what other women I am involved with and even makes teases and says that I should F**K them.

With her sporadic attention, is she waiting for me with the to make a move, or is she just using me?

 

[vorbis]

Simplest answer is usually right. YES! She wants you to f**k her but wants you to make the first move. Acting like you don't care is good but if you do it too much she WILL actually think you don't care! Be smooth and the next time there's heavy kino keep escalating it.

 

[Serialized3]

You've probably already missed your chance to close on her. There probably was a time (the first time) that you could have slept with her, but now if you tried to kiss her you'd probably get a suprised look and a "omg i was just JOKING!"

next time, get your balls together and strike while the iron is hot.

 

[Serialized3]

Oh I can almost guarantee you that she sees you as one of her guy friends and not as a "confident alpha" lover.

Hanging out several times a week + no sex = guy friend

 

[Macgyver]

You should've made a move on her to determine whether she is an attention ho or not, it's your loss now and all you have to do now is masturbate.

 

[DJnoob]

I have known this HB 8 from school for a few months and we see eachother a few times a week. We have started hanging out more often within the last month. She has many guy friends, but I always act as a confident alpha,and never act like an AFC around her.

Some days we flirt heavily online and sometimes it even leads up to blatant comeons that she wants to sleep with me.(this has happend a few times). However, the following day its as if she has no interest whatsoever. Some days she also initiates heavy kino, but I try to appear as if I don't care. She also appears very interested about what other women I am involved with and even makes teases and says that I should F**K them.

With her sporadic attention, is she waiting for me with the to make a move, or is she just using me?

this is how i act around woman lol. She is seducing you man, and its working

 

[trd323]

In every action you take with a women, try and do things because you want to not because some guy on here says "you did not kiss on the first date, she does nto like you anymore", Now if you already had that feeling of you should have kissed her and did not. Just do it next time when you feel it again.

DO NOT FORCE ANYTHING, it will look and feel weird.

 

[Bettis76]

How do I get the power back on my side? What do you mean that she is seducing me?

 

[Bettis76]

I think I may be dealing with a potential AW here. Here close friends are very good people, but they are all HB6-7s. She also said in the past that she can't stand hanging out around girls, and likes hanging out around guys more.

 

[backbreaker]

I never understood how someone could act "alpha". you are either secure with yourself or you aren't. Being alpha doesn't necessarly mean always one-upping the next guy or going out of your way to make sure you get noticed, but just being yourself, being true to your wants, needs and values in the presense of other men.

Anyway, very very simple. Next time you see her, make a serious move, and expect her to return it likewise. If she doesn't, give her a confused look and say "well, with all the hints you were giving me online, this is what you wanted right?" If she says anything other than you are right, **** it and move on. You've already dug yourself in a hole by being indesivive for too long, but if she is still giving you hints, maybe there is hope.

 

[Charm]

You sound like you are borderline friends zone. You'll have to work at keeping things sexually interesting without being overly flamboyant.