Heavy eye contact...and I freeze

[Scought]

What's up-

Basically Im a pussi. I go out a lot. And when I go out I always get strong eye contact. Im talkin look at eachother straight in the eye for a good moment. This doesnt happen once. No, more like 3 times. And what do I do? Nothing? I will go over occassionally strike a convo, but if it doesnt go as well as i think it should be, i dont close. I dont ATTEMPT to close.
I feel like if i get heavy eye contact and go talk to a girl, she will seem even more interested.
Who knows? Bottom line is that I get heavy eye contact repeatedly. Ill see the heavy EC girl(s) talkin with some other dude, so I just say, hey whatever, go chill.
On this site, alot is said about doing your own thing and not caring what girls think. Well thats good, but cant that be bad? You dont want to follow them around, but I will act aloof at the bars, and that really wont work. I have to put in some effort, but I also think if a girl digs me, she will put herself near me.

I'm not sure what my problem is. EC is a key factor, I care, I guess, I dont care enough. I need to stop being a pussi, and do something about my behavior. Not sure what though.


Cheers

 

[So Many Ways]

Dude, you have it good if you're getting that much eye contact. That's like seeing a hundred dollar bill on the ground and not picking it up. This is as blatant of a buy signal that you can get. Try this the next time you're out. If you are in a club and you see a woman giving you the eye, just go up to her, grab her hand and lead her to the dance floor. Don't ask her permission to dance, just go right up to her and lead. If she protests (a lot of times, women will feign resistance to play around), insist, say something like "you know you want me". She can only resist so long and she will go along with you, smiling the whole time.

If you're not in a club, let's say you're walking down the street or at a restaurant, just walk up to her and say hi. That's all you need to do. Don't think to much, just behave naturally and relax.

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

Scought

Why'd you post this? You know what your problem is....are you just looking for validation?

I'm not sure what my problem is.

Yes you are...it's this.

Basically Im a pussi.

You know the solution too.

I need to stop being a pussi

 

[tactic]

Scought, I don't like you and so shall'nt you. Give the attitude back. Be a man!



Now seriously dude wtf... if you know you're a *****, then stop!

STOP!

 

[JJMcLure]

In bars/clubs you should approach regardless of eye contact, but EC is a good IOI (Indicator of Interest).

Also don't get confused about acting "aloof" (aka being a challenge). You have to approach the chicks. You are allowed to let her know you're interested (by actions not words). That doesn't mean telling her she is hot or that you like her. It means you can smile, act friendly and be around her.

In a bar/club there will be so many other guys ready to hit on her, that if you sit around acting "aloof" you won't get very far. (I'm not going to say nowhere, because with drunk girls around anything can and does happen).

About "not caring what girls think". Sure, don't be phased by rejection, her negative opinion, or anything else she throws your way. You are still you, and your value is the same. You live your life for you, how you want to.

But that does not mean not listening to what she says etc if you're trying to build rapport. Nor does it mean you can't engage a chick in conversation or get to know her better.