Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hearing the line "I never want to see you again"

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How many of you guys have heard this line and did she mean it? Did you never hear from her again?

I have heard this line 2 times in my life and the first time she really did mean it. The second time it has only been a few weeks, but I haven't heard a peep from her since she said it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hmm, haven't heard it before. You must really be pissing people off. :crackup:
 
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Obsidian said:
hmm, haven't heard it before. You must really be pissing people off. :crackup:

LOL yeah, the first time she was a LTR and I really pissed her off acting AFC trying to get her back.

The second time was New Years Eve, the crazy woman threw me out after she started reminiscing about her ex husband.
 

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it sounds like YOU should have told both of these girls that you never wanted to see them again, considering how they treated you. :rolleyes: Don't be such a pushover.

Woman warmly reminiscing about her husband in front of me ---> NEXT
 
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Obsidian said:
it sounds like YOU should have told both of these girls that you never wanted to see them again, considering how they treated you. :rolleyes: Don't be such a pushover.

Woman warmly reminiscing about her husband in front of me ---> NEXT

Yeah, the first one was years ago and most recent one I was drunk and haven't spoken to her since. I was just wondering if anyone else heard this line and what happened.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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War Against Betaism

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Well, I heard a "Don't talk to me ever again," line before after acting like a huge AFC. Never heard from her again, ugh I felt so stupid.
 
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War Against Betaism said:
Well, I heard a "Don't talk to me ever again," line before after acting like a huge AFC. Never heard from her again, ugh I felt so stupid.

So far it's 3 for 3 in never talking to the girl again.

I guess they really mean it. I don't ever want to hear that line again. Granted, this recent time I got the " I don't ever want to see you again" via a text message it's probably all the same.
 

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Dude what's up with the multiple threads?
 

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When I was told by a very pissed-off GF that she never wanted to see me again I had an epiphany:
I told her: "OK. Next time we meet you'll be blindfolded..."
and that diffused the situation, because we have been playing lots of roles in the bedroom and she remembered that she liked surrendering to my whims

But don't take it personally when a girl tells you this. Most of the time it means that you managed to piss her off THAT MOMENT, and if she is smart she'll regret having said that and is going to reestablish contact.
What matters is what you say and do after being told this.

If you know you've been at fault, use some EMPATHY: "Babe, I understand that you're pissed off right now. Maybe because I did this, or maybe because I am not the man you thought me to be. If you want to stay pissed off and forget all the good moments we had together, it's up to you. For my part, I won't try to stop you from going away. However this does not mean that I will wait forever for you to cool down."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Never. And I was huge arsehole in my AFC days, oh so long ago, and I probably deserved to hear it more than once.
 

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Never happened to me but I still wouldn't sweat it. You have to consider the type of person who's saying it.
 
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Dude what's up with the multiple threads?

What multiple threads? I only have 1 other thread going in MM and this is sort of a spinoff, but I wanted to hear from others who got this line before.
 
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Nikos75 said:
When I was told by a very pissed-off GF that she never wanted to see me again I had an epiphany:
I told her: "OK. Next time we meet you'll be blindfolded..."
and that diffused the situation, because we have been playing lots of roles in the bedroom and she remembered that she liked surrendering to my whims

But don't take it personally when a girl tells you this. Most of the time it means that you managed to piss her off THAT MOMENT, and if she is smart she'll regret having said that and is going to reestablish contact.
What matters is what you say and do after being told this.

If you know you've been at fault, use some EMPATHY: "Babe, I understand that you're pissed off right now. Maybe because I did this, or maybe because I am not the man you thought me to be. If you want to stay pissed off and forget all the good moments we had together, it's up to you. For my part, I won't try to stop you from going away. However this does not mean that I will wait forever for you to cool down."

Not bad, but at this point it wouldn't make sense it's been 3 weeks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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happened to me... about a month ago I was being a real @$$, said i don't want to talk to you or see you again. i don't like that she said, to me it makes no sense, only thing i did was say a couple of things verbally, its not like i hit the girl. She was actually hit twice in a previous relationship, yet she still wants to talk to the guy, that was the only thing that was troubling to me.
i so want to talk to her again and get the last word and then hit it and quit it. have to figure out way to talk to her, i guess apologize, but that is chumpish
 

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I have said it a lot, and have never meant it once. How about that???
 
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