"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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been in a chicks bed sleep over four times with no sex just kissing and fondling. She told me quite a few guys are in the same predictament with her over time. Any guys out there have similiar situations...any advice with this juvenile spooning nonsense.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Actions speak louder than words dude. She's just not that into you. Walk away. Yes she will most likely "chase" you a bit afterwards.

If she does, you will either:

A) Fall back into her trap and still get stringed a longed a one-sided relationship (she gets attention, you get no sex). (you lose)
or
B) You drop her, you DHV even more because you don't settle for less than optimal situations, get your frame back and focus on new plates. (you win)
 

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Sounds like she's playing games or trying to seem "hard to get" in the hopes that you will chase her further.
 
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